My friend that is really sweet and nice but always a bit flaky asked me today if it would be in bad taste if her two little boys didn't come to my wedding on Friday (in 4 days). What I'm inclined to say is "Well you're the parent so it's your decision, but I did already had to give a headcount so I still have to pay for their meals, chairs, etc. And I already finished my seating chart and sign and I don't have time to adjust them so your table will be a bit empty, but whatever."
Can anyone help me with a more tactful response because I just can't muster one up right now. Also, my wedding is at a resort with a great pool, and I put a lot of effort into making sure kids aren't bored during the actual wedding. There will be coloring books for kids at the ceremony and we have a bounce house with an attendant set up outside during cocktail hour and the reception, so it's not like it's not a kid-friendly situation. I'm just stressed and annoyed.