Hi, my wedding is next year in February of 2022 and I am in need of some advice. I have a friend who I have known for a couple of years now, that I would consider a good friend in the sense that I can talk to her about anything but I cannot rely on her at all when it comes to showing up to events. My issue is that we have an EXTREMELY tight guest list paired with two HUGE families, so every single open spot counts. Over the years I have seen this friend (who also has a boyfriend of 10 years) get invited to a wedding, accept and then just not show up.
This is not really an option for us to have two people just flat out not show up because we would have given the invites to extended family and plus ones which are limited as well, and of course, somehow over the past 6 months, every single cousin of mine now has a boyfriend or girlfriend, so if a spot is up for grabs I would like to make everyone happy if possible.
My dilemma is that even if I tell her how important it is to me she 100% commits or declines the invite altogether, I still don't trust that day of something will prevent her from showing.
Has anyone ever dealt with this? Any advice? Should I not invite her and tell her that we are keeping it very small?