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Florist vs silk flowers

Hithere, on March 1, 2020 at 8:38 PM Posted in Planning 0 18

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Hi everyone,
I met with a florist who seemed a little upset that I was diying some of my floral stuff. She said she gives me consent but said it kind of goes against her contract. I’m an artist and plan to diy as much as possible to save on money. I made centerpieces and she seemed a little upset I wasn’t going through her services for centerpiece. I also plan to make my boutonnières and the flower crown on my veil.

Is this pretty common with florists to not allow you to make your own floral pieces that you don’t want done by them and make you only go through them for all floral?
Because I can’t afford to do everything in real flowers. I was looking to only do my bouquet and the bridesmaids bouquets in real flowers. Does that mean I either can only do all real flowers or only all fake flowers?

Thank you!

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Latest activity by Hithere, on March 3, 2020 at 4:54 PM

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Lisa · on March 1, 2020 at 8:44 PM
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Seems odd. I could see if you had two florist. They can’t expect you to buy things you can’t afford. Would she still have this feeling if you diy’ed non-floral centerpiece. Is there really something in your contract about it?

I told my florist up front we may not do all real and she even suggested to do some artificial things to save money. We opted for all real but it was nice she was open about everything and willing to put together artificial pieces too!
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Marie · on March 1, 2020 at 8:44 PM
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You absolutely don’t have to do all florals thru your florist. If you only wanted flower petals then they shouldn’t really say a word about it. That’s kind of rude that they shared their opinion... they should know better than most that every wedding is different, every bride is different, and every budget is different. You do you!
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Rachael · on March 1, 2020 at 8:56 PM
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I never heard of that unless you're contract said something specific but that would be odd. It's not like you're asking her to do half a centerpiece and you'll finish it off with fake ones ? I'm getting my flowers done and all they said was give a list of what you want done
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Hithere · on March 1, 2020 at 9:00 PM
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She basically said if I did anything floral not through her I would need her consent and that’s pretty much what the contract said and she said since I told her about the centerpieces upfront she gave me consent which I just find odd because I’m still spending close to $1000 on real florals and I need her consent to save some money by doing my own centerpieces, boutonnières, and etc? It shouldn’t be that big of an issue. She was very nice otherwise and we haven’t signed the contract, but I just don’t think I want to go through with it if there’s a possibility of it being a issue.
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Hithere · on March 1, 2020 at 9:02 PM
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Yeah that’s what I thought too! It was kind of odd, like not sure she meant it in a rude way but I just can’t afford to do all real floral and if it’s an issue I’m probably going to have to go through a different florist or just diy it all which I’d rather not do but will if I have to.
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Willow · on March 1, 2020 at 9:12 PM
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If you haven't signed the contract yet, I would consider looking elsewhere. Her attitude is unprofessional, and quite frankly, entitled. That's like a photographer saying they "consent" to guests taking photos on their cell phones. It IS common for a vendor to prohibit another PROFESSIONAL from doing the same thing
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Hithere · on March 1, 2020 at 9:15 PM
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Hi Willow,
I could see if I had a second florist but yeah for me to diy some stuff I just don’t get why I would need consent.

On another note, after looking at the location I don’t think her services will work for our venue so I probably will end up looking else where anyways.
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Little · on March 1, 2020 at 9:23 PM
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Hit up Whole Foods and see what they can do for you.
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Rachael · on March 1, 2020 at 9:30 PM
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I would probably go elsewhere so you dont have to worry about it
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Kendra · on March 1, 2020 at 9:33 PM
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I definitely think it’s odd and recently came across the same thing. I too am doing my own centerpieces and just need a florist for the bouquets and boutonnières. I had a florist tell me it’s all or nothing because if someone takes pictures and tags her they are going to think she did the centerpieces too when she didn’t.

If it’s not too late maybe try and find another florist who will do just the bouquets for you.
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Hithere · on March 1, 2020 at 9:40 PM
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It’s so odd that they have that issue, good to know I’m not the only one who has run in to this though, I think it’s definitely a sign to keep looking. It’s not really fair for people who can’t afford all real flower. I get being an artist and wanting credit for what you make but it’s kind of ridiculous.
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Dj Tanner · on March 1, 2020 at 9:43 PM
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Her consent?!?!?!?! I’m sorry.... who’s the bride??? Its not like you’re trying to pass of your work for hers. If she has a problem with you diying she should have declined your business instead of demanding you to confirm what you want with her first. Some of these vendors act like its their wedding day. They forget we pay them to do a job and that’s it. We pay them to do what we want. We don’t pay them to do what they want. If tell her right off
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Kendra · on March 1, 2020 at 9:44 PM
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Exactly! Just say that it isn’t your work. I’m sure there are plenty of brides that contract more than 1 vendor who are in similar fields to help with the wedding.
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Eri · on March 1, 2020 at 10:40 PM
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Coming here to say something similar!
My makeup artist even has a clause in her contract about a "forced collaboration" fee (where if you're not upfront about hiring a second MUA for half of the party or something, you get charged extra).
Social media pictures and word-of-mouth are so important for so many wedding vendors, that they often don't want their artwork mixed with someone else's. I can't say I blame them, but it's not something most brides and grooms innately know to ask about or look for.
Fortunately, for my florist, she's pretty chill and doesn't have anything like that in her contract. I'll be DIYing the centerpieces and she'll be doing most of the ceremony stuff. Her company/business model is also set up in such a way that she can handle a few weddings per day. Other florists that only do one event per day might have more stringent rules (not to mention higher minimums).
So while her request isn't totally out of the ordinary, if how she handled it is giving you pause, you should definitely be able to find a florist where you wouldn't have to worry about that sort of thing at all.
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Emily · on March 1, 2020 at 11:10 PM
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I actually told my florist upfront I’d be doing this before I hired them! I said it was based solely off of budget and she’s totally understanding of that.
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Emily · on March 1, 2020 at 11:11 PM
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The only thing I can think of them getting offended if their “advertisement” gets messed up for a mix of this is their design/work and that is theirs. But people don’t usually ask at the wedding who your florist was lol.
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Nicole · on March 2, 2020 at 9:31 AM
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My florist is aware we’re renting silk floral centerpieces for our wedding and she wasn’t upset at all. That’s your preference. I don’t think she has the right to be upset when it’s not her decision. She should be happy at the least that you want to do business with her.
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Hithere · on March 3, 2020 at 4:54 PM
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I agree and I even contacted a second florist to get their opinion and they turned me down as well when I told them I was making my centerpieces. I can’t believe it! Not sure what I’m going to do atm for real flowers. Pretty frustrating.
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