Flower girl - 10yr old niece vs 2yr old friend's daughter

My vote is for your neice. She wants to do it, is capable of doing it with a little decorum, and you have wanted her to be your flower girl since forever.

I am having a 12 year old female ring bearer. There is no 'to old' for these roles in my opinion!

Flower girl in my family has always been up to the bride so I do think you get say. My sister who will be 16 at the time is my flower girl. I've promised her since she was 6, and she's also mentally challenged but it was never a question and not one person has asked me or implied she's too old.

FSIL who is one of the worst people alive wants her daughter to be the flower girl. I hate this girl but I don't care about the flower girl really so if she's going to be nice and behave I may just have two. They wouldn't have to match with the different ages or anything and it's always good to have a backup in case the 2 year old isn't feeling it day of.

So definitely niece, and if you want have the friends daughter too then go for it

My daughter was nearly 9 when she was our FG. She did a great job. A toddler could be so unpredictable. Also, she wouldn't even know she was missing out on anything. Your niece would and she would be crushed. Choose your niece.

My vote is for your niece .... Family comes first if the bond is tight

Family first in my opinion, and if shes keen and youve always wanted her, then pick her.

If you really wanted to compromise you could make your niece a junior BM and then friends daughter as flower girl, but i wouldnt bother if thats not what you really want.

Niece hands down

Do you really want 1 FG? If so I say go with the niece, the FG is apart of the bridal party & your the bride. But if your FH has a request I'd consider it bc as we all know their input is very limited when it comes to WR stuff. They don't have to match or even come out to the same time. Your niece could throw the flowers as the official FG & the other could hold a flower pom or one of those signs that says here comes the bride or anything else cute you come up w/. My FH godson is our RB but my lil bro (8) will be holding a sign. Its 2015 you can create an attendant position lol

I had 2 nieces as flower girls and one as a Junior bridesmaid. Would your niece rather be a jr. bridesmaid? I think it would be nice to include the 2 yr old since it is very important to your future husband - it is his wedding too!

Have both of them go. But I would definitely have your niece involved, especially if she is excited!

Would your niece be happy to be a Jr. bridesmaid? That way, your FH's friend's daughter could be the FG. In a normal circumstance, I would also think 10 is a little old. However, because it's something she has always wanted to do, it would work out fine. I'm just thinking of my 5th grade students who are 10 and most of them would be embarrassed to do something like that. They are practically little teenagers at that point.

I will be having my 2 year old daughter and my 9 year old niece as my flower girls. They will be wearing different dresses and I may be having them come down the aisle separate. I'm excited. I say you can do both as well.

I have a 10 yr old daughter that has a dress and bouquet like mine and will walk down directly before me. My 5 yr old daughter will be my flower girl

My vote is for niece. My daughter was 2 when she was the flower girl for my ex-SIL. She did great, but I spent time preparing her. Telling her there would be a lot of people, and what she needed to do. She was wonderful and they actually featured her in the newspaper when they did an article about weddings.

Why not have both? If you only want one, then I'd pick family first, but who says you can't have 2? It won't cost you much and it will make everyone happy.

I vote niece. 2 year olds are not very predictable. Cute, but they may be cranky that day....

Definitely your niece ....kids that age get so excited about being flower girls . I remember being so upset when my Uncle did not choose me as his FG when I was about her age.

I was having my sister do it. She will be around 9 when the wedding happens but then I had a girl myself with fh. So to still have her and my daughter do it she is being my flower girl asistant. My daughter will be two at that time and we all heard stories of the flower not making it down the aisle. I old my sister the flower girl asistant helps with everything that has to do with the flower girl including walking down the aisle and throughing the peddles. But that she is also helping with her while we all get ready by playing with her and telling me if she is doing stuff not suppose too. And she absolutely loves the idea and can't wait now.

His niece is 10, wanted to be FG, We promoted her to JBM and then I can have my friends daughter be FG. She is 4 and tiny

Niece. You want her to be the FG, she wants to be the FG, and she's family. Not to mention a 10 year is way more predictable than a two year old. If it's really that important to him, your niece could walk the two year old down with her, but I wouldn't cut your niece out.

If you can't do both or would rather just 1 FG, my vote is your niece. And I agree that 2 year olds can be very unpredictable in these situations. When my nephew was 3, he didn't even make it down the aisle or pose for many pictures when he was the RB for my brother's wedding. Granted my sister warned my brother ahead of time that would probably happen.