Flower Girl Age & How Many?

Do you mean your daughter will be 2 1/2 next year when you marry or will she be 3 1/2?

I don't think 10 is too old. My nephew will be 9 at my wedding and he will be a ring bearer. I am also doing 2 flower girls and 2 ring bearers with 120 guests, I definitely don't think 3 is too many. If you don't want 3 flower girls have you thought about a junior bridesmaid? As far as the 2 year old, I think if there is someone that could watch her in the front it would be fine. I just can't see a 2 year old standing still during a ceremony. Ultimately, it's up to you and what you decide!

It probably is better just for the 5 and 10 year olds to do this so they can experience the wedding event while your daughter would be too young to have a strong memory of this later on.

Traditionally flower girls have been about 4-7 years old. I'd make the 10 year old a junior bridesmaid in your place. The 5 year old Is ls enough to understand the role, be able to follow simple directions, so I'd make her the flower girl. IMO your 2 year old is a bit too young but of course you can dress her up and take all the photos you want. If you don't want to pick and choose between them you don't need to have a flower girl at all.

I say have all three!

We are having our 18 month old nephew being the ring bearer, and while he won't remember it, because he's our only young family member I think it means a lot to his parents who are both in the bridal party to have him involved.

Our flower girls are my grandmothers.. they were so excited to be asked and involved. I'm saying this to just put out that it might be cute to have your sisters help walk your daughter down the aisle and share in that moment together. While your daughter might not remember it, your sisters will.

If you're erring on the thought that your sister at 10 is a little too old, I agree with the junior bridesmaid suggestion and maybe have your youngest sister walk with your daughter that way they're all involved but not all sharing the same role.

Good luck and happy planning!

There is no rule about age for flower girls. I've seen a 1 year old flower girl that was pulled down the aisle in a decorated wagon, 2 20-something year old men (who threw petals from fanny packs LOL), 70-80 year old grandmas, and everything inbetween! I say have all 3!

I say have all three. Make the 10yo the chief flower girl who makes sure everyone gets all the way down the aisle. I would have all three girls sit down in the front row after they make it up the aisle. Having them stand at the altar is a big ask at their age.

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She'll be 2 1/2 next year

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She'll need minding then, so I would put the oldest with her to walk and then have the 5 year old walk solo. Hopefully that will make the 10 year old feel like it's not a "little kid" job.

I don't think 3 flower girls is too many. I've seen weddings with more than that. I think it's best to include them all. With the 10-year-old, it really comes down to what clothing sizes she wears because flower girl dresses are (obviously) only available in child sizes. But I agree, she will be helpful in assisting the little ones.

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Thank you everyone! I've decided to let all 3 do it and have the 10-year-old help them and be the leader.

Five year old on petal duty

Ten year old on nudging/wagon pulling duty

2 1/2 year old on sitting in wagon duty

Let the cuteness overflow

I am having 6 flower girls (ranging from ages 3-7) at mine. I also will be having 6 page boys with 1 the ring bearer (age 10) and 1 the coin bearer (age 9). I'm even having a flower man Some people think I'm crazy others think its absolutely adorable. They are going to be the cutest things ever walking down the aisle!

My FH and I decided that if any of the kids get cranky or irritable right before the procession they just won't be in it. Why make a fussy child do something he/she doesn't want to do? It'll make it worse and could potentially ruin a really sweet, cute, adoring ceremony moment.