Flower girl and ring bearer necessary?

It's not necessary. FH and I are in a similar situation- we asked his 12 year old niece and 10 yo nephew if they wanted to be in the wedding and we never heard an answer....we assumed no and proceeded to plan as if we would not have children in the bridal party.

Just last month their mother told me they want to be in the wedding. So we have a ring bearer and made his niece a Jr bridesmaids, along with three of my cousins ages 11-14. You can skip it altogether if you don't want to deal with the politics.

We're not having them.

No, not necessary. We're not having any.

We aren't having them- largely because I want absolutely no kids at my wedding. I just don't think it's necessary.

Edit: they will be 11 and 12. Typo on this phone! My sister is extremely busy and getting a hold of her is difficult ( it's like making an appointment with a doctor in order to visit them lol). That's another reason I was leaning away towards them.

Not necessary.

Not necessary. We're having a ring bearer and flower girl but if I didn't have my niece and nephew we wouldn't be.

No, not necessary. While I love kids I don't find them cute at a wedding, even in a role like this. Skip it. Give the best man the ring to hold.

We're skipping them. I have too many cousins to ask, if I ask one niece I have to ask all 5, and I refuse to include FBILs wife and child.

Nope. Not necessary. We aren't having either of the two

Not necessary, we don't have either of them.

We are only having our niece, who will be almost 2 1/2 by our wedding be the flower girl. No ring bearer - his BM will hold the rings

You don't have to. We are having 2 ring bearers and no flower girl.

We're not having either. We don't know anyone in the right age group and I've heard horror stories about tantrums. Simplicity is my friend.

No kids at my nuptials!

Not necessary. I don't see the point in them.

We aren't having them in our wedding. The 2 kids we have in our lives to ask are shy and we didn't want to tramatize them. All our vendors are relieved.

No, definitely not necessary!

@Tiffany it's exactly why I can't with my younger cousins. I would feel obligated to ask all of them lol.

Not necessary to have FG & RB.