Okay a little bit of back story before we dive in,
My fiancé’s older brother got married 5 years ago. He and his wife had issues getting pregnant. My fiancé and future in laws are not her biggest fans as she tends to divert my future brother-in-law’s time and attention away from his family to solely focus on her own, ya know “normal family drama”.
Flash forward to present day,Our wedding is scheduled for November 2020 (7 months away). We have EVERYTHING planned, except songs, despite the stress caused by COVID-19. My future sister-in-law has now decided to add to that stress and ask why her 10 month old daughter hasn’t been asked to be the flower girl. I personally would never ask a 17 month old baby to be in my wedding. Here are a few key points:1.) I have already chosen my cousin’s 6 year old (who will be 7 at the time of the wedding). 2.) It is an outdoor ceremony where the wedding party will be proceeding from inside a house and have to walk down 3 different set of stairs and navigate around a pool in order to get to the yard which then slopes downhill to lakeside. So wagons are definitely off the table. 3.) My fiancé is now being told that if his niece (the current 10 month old) isn’t appointed as a flower girl, then his brother will no longer agree to be a groomsman in the wedding and that they won’t be attending altogether.
My fiancé is absolutely mortified because this is OUR day and we should be supported by loved ones not presented with ultimatums. Are there any suggestions on how to resolve this issue? Trying not to start a family feud. TIA
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