Flower girl dress complications

I'm actually letting my sister and FSIL pick out the dresses. They're paying for it and I really don't care. Luckily they both like the same dress.

I chose our FG's dresses... I asked their moms separately about budget and then i had them custom made on Etsy

Although it's nice to give some consideration to the parents of the flower girl, she doesn't get to pick the dress. An easy out is to tell her that not only will you be choosing the dress, but also that you will be paying for it.

Zulily has reasonably priced flower girl dresses all the time. So does Amazon.

https://www.zulily.com/e/just-couture-toddler-to-girls-266249.html?page=1&lastPos=0&zusizeId=550

https://www.zulily.com/e/trish-scully-child-230220.html?page=1&lastPos=0&zusizeId=550

Is money an issue? Maybe if you offered to pay for the dress, she would be open to letting you pick it?

Sounds like she’s worried about the cost

I'm going to make my flower girls dress .. but I am insane at making tutus and tutdresses (3 daughters) i also make them costumes every year for Halloween . . In my opinion it's itncheaper to make I spend roughly 60 per tutu .. not including anything but tulle and ribbon.. I would just buy .. honestly I see terrible homemade costumes and clothes all the time

No cost is not an issue at all. We offered to pay for the FG dresses but they said they can handle it. The dresses I like are $35. It's a beach wedding so I don't want them to have to pay for something so expensive that may be ruined. She told me the reasoning is that she wants to show off her daughter and wants to make sure she gets the attention. She wants her in this very poofy expensive kind of dress. She also asked me if she can bring her family so they can see her walk down the isle. I thought that was pretty dang rude of her to even ask. Considering we don't even know her family and that it's immediate family only. My brother & his wife loved the dress I picked out for the FG's btw.

"Laura, I want the girls to have matching dresses. I will gladly pay for it. If you don't want that, I'm sorry that your daughter won't be part of our day."

My sister made my niece's flower girl dress (I didn't care what she wore, and it was a cute tutu style dress), and she picked out my nephew's flower boy outfit (with some suggestions from me since she originally thought she would rent the little boy version of the GM suit - I thought it was too expensive.). Even though I wasn't picky about what they wore, I get having a certain vision. I think as long as you stay within a budget set by the parents or you pay for the dresses, you pick the outfits, not the parents.

WTF? they want to see her walk down the Isle its not a Freaking Pageant or SHOW its your wedding I would put your foot down and tell her what you want and if she cant do that then you will miss not having her daughter in the wedding!

What Sarah said.

@sally - that's exactly what I told FH! It's very rude. FH said it always has to be her way or it's a big issue. I don't want to have to deal with something so stupid. I really would prefer to pay for the dresses but that's not even the issue. She doesn't like any dress I picked out because it won't make her daughter look like the princess she is.

I think the parents can have an opinion on what their daughter will be in. But at the end of day it's your wedding you have the final say. I'd tell her she wears what I pick out or doesn't take part in the wedding. No her family doesn't need to go. The can take a video and send it to them. I'm sorry you have to deal with parents not listening or going by what you chose.

Yes I do agree she should have a say in what she wears. But any dress I show her is not good enough for her daughter to wear. She's ridiculous in my opinion.

Sucks that you have to deal with this at all but I like what Sarah said great way to word it!

FH said I can’t tell her that she can’t be in the wedding because we already asked her to be a FG. should I just let her have her way? And let the girls be in two completely dresses. I just don’t want that. And she knows it.

You have to put ur foot down, it's ur wedding. Tell her it's ur way or the highway. Lol jk. But be firm and tell her what u want. Maybe tell her she can help you choose.

Buy the dresses you want. Have them with you for the wedding "Here is your daughter's dress. This is what she will wear walking down the aisle or she won't walk down the aisle." You've got to get FH behind you on this.

On second thought, maybe there is a compromise. The FG wears the dress you choose for pictures and the ceremony. After that, they are free to put their little princess in the most god awful frilly dress that they can dream up.

I picked and paid for my flower girl dresses. I showed the moms before and asked if they liked them but ultimately I made the decision.