So my FH has one nephew (11) and three nieces (9, 7 and 4). We want them all included in our wedding. My FH said his nephew could be ring bearer and carry a fake pillow with fake rings... I tried expressing to him that a ring bearer is usually very young and his nephew is almost a teenager and not a baby who could potentially lose rings. I suggested making him a junior groomsman but my FH declined that idea. I think flower girl would be great for the 7 and 4 year old to do, but the 9 year old I'm unsure. If we were going the junior groomsman/bridesmaid route I would absolutely ask her... but she has a lot of anxiety and health problems so I don't know if she would be comfortable wearing a dress I pick out or standing up there with me...
Any advice or suggestions?