Flower Girl

A flower girl isn't a necessity. I would probably skip one in your case. I wouldn't ask a 16 year old to be in that role unless you know for a fact she'd love it.

I agree that 16 is too old for a flower girl. I'm not having one, instead we are having a jr. bridesmaid who is 12, who will walk back down the aisle after everything with our ring bearer (he'll be 7) to keep everything even.

Flower girls tend to be young, or the new trend, a male friend who's the same age as you and its a goofy silly thing.

Think about maybe having her be a jr. bridesmaid or do a reading or something if you'd like her to be involved!

OK, I'm going against the grain: 16 is NOOOOOOOOT too old. All the ladies above saying your 16-year-old cousin can't be a FG, are WRONG and none of them even tried to think outside-the-box!

Trust me on this one: You won't get arrested, if you ask her and she answers YES... and neither will she.😉. And your marriage won't be annuled either.

I love all the photos of the older people being flower people . You can ask her if she would like to be a flower girl or a junior bridesmaid or just do a reading. She might not want to be in the limelight or something. She may even like to be an usher handing out the programs for you.

Ah wearing the dreaded dress I think I went through that phase where I always preferred pants. I think it's a great idea to have her wear a dress and let her change afterwards. I also think it's great you're going to let her decide how she would like to be involved as she's old enough to do that . I hope the conversation goes well for you and you can figure it all out.

Agreed! Ask her to be the flower girl.

Do you have any other little girls who are either family or the children of close friends that would also work as flower girls? I'd think your cousin could work as a junior bridesmaid. That's what we did with our oldest niece. She was too old to be a flower girl but too young to be a bridesmaid, plus I was like you in that my bridesmaids were set as is, so we made her a junior bridesmaid. She was great at it! She's also not the easiest girl to get to dress up and be girly. Junior bridesmaids really don't partake in a lot of the other bridesmaid stuff, so you can keep your bridesmaid set as it is, but then your cousin still gets to be a part of the big day.