Flower girl/ring bearer

Some people use people that they would’ve used in there bridal party or flower grandmas which I think is really cute.

You certainly don't have to have them unless you really want. I'm not having either flower girl or ring bearer. I don't think those roles will be missed.

I'm having an adults only reception too, but we are having my FH's three nieces be flower girls and his nephew be ring bearer. We will only be addressing envelops to adults invited and have a note on our details card that says only children who are in the wedding party will be present.

You certainly don't need to have a ring bearer or flower girl.

We can't not invite his nieces and nephew since he is really close with them - but we don't want any other children because it adds up and we are trying to keep costs low.

We didn't have an adults only wedding but we still just skipped over having both a rb/fg. No one will care. Especially if it's already announced that it will be adults only, everyone will understand.

We are doing our wedding as 13 years old and up, so my step brother (13) and my FHs cousin (14) are going to walk down the aisle with loose white roses and hand a rose to each person on the end of the aisle to represent the flower girl/ring bearer roles. The officiants are 2 of our best friends and will each have one of our rings

If you have kids in mind that you would want to do it, they can be there just for the ceremony and then have a babysitter for the reception.

If you want them go for it. They will not feel left out trust me. They will have fun and be in their own little world. I had just a flower girl and a junior bridesmaids. The junior bridesmaids was 12 and was having fun dancing with her older cousins who are above the age of 18 and the flower girl was 7 and having a blast being center of attention dancing on the dance floor and some of our adults were dancing with her. They both had a blast even though they were the only kids.

Also I don't think if you have kids in the ceremony that you shouldn't allow them at the reception. Not only does this make the parents have to run around on the wedding day to take the kids to a babysitter they have to pay for after you using their kids to be in the wedding. But also the kids should be able to enjoy the reception just like anyone else if you are having them work sort of speak at the wedding. The reception is seen as a thank you to guests and those involved in the wedding. To not only exclude the flower girl/ring bear from the reception because you don't feel they would have fun but to also add to the parents plate is not right. I've been to two weddings where the kids in the wedding weren't allowed at the reception and not only did the parents seem annoyed by the addition task of running back home to drop the kids off, but the other wedding was supposed to have kids in the wedding but the parents ditched at the last minute because they didn't want to deal with the hassle of their kids being just good enough to be in the wedding for a photo opportunity but not good enough to actually attend the reception.

We are having a black tie, 21+ wedding, but we still really want his god children involved. They’ll be the only kids there for the ceremony and then they are leaving before dinner so that the parents can have a good time.

The only kids that will be at our reception will be our 2 boys and my niece & nephew. They can play with each other lol we were strict about no kids

Have the flower petals already on the aisle as part of the decor if you want them, and your FH or wedding party can hold the rings!

We are having FH's nieces and nephew as a flower girl, jr. bridesmaid, and ring bearer. We talked to his sister before confirming this and it's been decided that her in-laws will attend the ceremony and possibly dinner and will take the kids back to their house after dinner at the latest. I don't think there's anything wrong with that as long as you're able to make accommodations with the parents so they don't have to run their kids back and forth places.

I would only do so if you knew any kids that you really felt were worth having the job, i.e., immediate family members or a friend's kid(s) to whom you consider yourself an auntie of sorts. We're having an adults-only wedding, but my two little nieces, who are both 7 (although one will be 8 at the end of September), are flower girls because they've been in line for that job since the day they were born. Then my FH's two best friends, who are both groomsmen, have little boys - one 5, one 3 1/2, who will be our ring bearers. I'm not overly concerned about them feeling left out. I know the girls can't wait!