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Just Said Yes June 2019

Flower girls - one is 14 and one is 1.5.

Winnie, on August 20, 2018 at 8:00 PM Posted in Planning 0 9
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Hello!
So we’re just saying F it and NOT doing a bridal party, but we’re having his my niece and his nieces and nephews be flower girls/ ring bearers. There’s 4 little girls ages 3-10. But then there’s a 14 year old, and an almost 2 year old girl (all ages are what they’ll be at the time of wedding).
Because we’re not having bridesmaids, it would be awkward for the 14 year old to be a junior bridesmaid, but I definitely don’t want to exclude her. Should I just ask her to be a flower girl regardless? She’s super sweet yet mature. As far as the almost 2 year old, I have to include her (she’s my only niece) so I don’t know what to do - maybe have the 14 year old walk her down?

Yes, I feel obnoxious with this many flower girls but we’re very close with our family and it will be a very family friendly wedding.

Any advice is appreciated. Thank you!

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Latest activity by Jennifer, on August 29, 2018 at 9:41 PM
  • KiwiDerbyBride
    VIP May 2015
    KiwiDerbyBride ·
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    Can you ask the 14 year old what she’d like to do? You could make her chief flower girl and ask her to help wrangle the little ones. And I think it’s lovely to include them all - how many flower girls did Kate Middleton have?! My sister had five, plus two page boys, because there were nieces, nephews and young cousins who all needed to be included and it was super cute.

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    Beginner June 2020
    Bethany ·
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    I think the fourteen year old probably wouldn't want to be a flower girl with all the little kids. I know I wouldn't have wanted to do that when I was fourteen! Since she's mature, is there another job you could give her to make her feel included? Maybe put her in charge of the guestbook?
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    Devoted September 2019
    Gell ·
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    What is the age spread of the girls between 3 and 10? I would ask the 14 yr old to be a Junior BM.

    You don't need to have BM's for her to have that title. Young women her age are flattered to be recognized as considerably more mature than a 10 yr old.

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    Mim ·
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    I wouldn't ask the 14 year old to be a flower girl. She'd probably end up feeling like a babysitter. Ask her if she'd be willing to do a reading, or an usher and walk grandparents down the aisle. You could also invite her to get ready with you away from the little ones and give her a corsage.
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    Master July 2018
    Cuoghi ·
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    A 2 yo cant walk down by themselves but should be able to if there is a gaggle of them. I'd ask the 14yo iv she wants to be in charge of kids or a junior BM.
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  • FutureMrsO
    Savvy September 2018
    FutureMrsO ·
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    We are only having a MOH and a best man. We have two flower girls, one is 5 and the other is 13. I felt the same way about having a 13 year old be a flower girl, but I wasn’t going to have a junior bridesmaid. So it was either flower girl or nothing. I think she is happy with being a flower girl so I’m not going to worry about it anymore.
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  • Sara
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    Sara ·
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    My cousin got married when I was 16 and I was guest book attendant and handed out programs. My 2 year old sister was flower girl and I was also responsible for sending her down the aisle. It worked out perfectly because I didn't really want to be in front of a church full of people at that age.
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    Devoted September 2018
    Bri ·
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    I would have been super embarrassed to be asked to be a flower girl at 14. Maybe she could do something like be an usher or pass out programs if you're having them.
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  • Jennifer
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    Jennifer ·
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    Ask her what she would want to do and what she would want her title to be. I personally love bridal parties that are made up of all children, I think they are adorable and super sweet. At 14 though, even if she does want to be a flower girl, I would put her in a more age appropriate dress and instead of throwing petals (even if you are having the others do that) I would have her carry a kissing ball or small bouquet and either lead the others (give them a role model to follow) or follow them to encourage them to keep going from behind.

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