Hello!! I'm Jess. I got engaged in 2019. While planning at first, we wanted our grandmothers to be the flower girls. We had a newborn baby girl (1st cousin once removed) in the family and no other young girls, and we wanted to have multiple petal throwers. It was a bonus to do the grandmothers because there was one of each side of the wedding. When covid hit we paused our wedding planning, and have really got the ball rolling in the last few months. Unfortunately, my FH's grandmother died in the time since we got engaged. So the idea of having just my grandmother go down the aisle is kind of sad, and we also have the newborn baby girl from back then who is not so newborn anymore 
Our new idea since we like individuality and unique ideas, was to have a flower "party" (we'd like a better name lol) Basically the party would include my aunts, grandmother, step grandmother, preteen cousin and the little girl (who is my aunt's granddaughter AND my MOH's daughter AND my cousin once removed) My older female cousins are going to my bridesmaids and MOH, and my male cousins are going to be escorting the ring, since we have no younger boys. So, technically if I did not use the preteen girl she would be the only cousin left out of the wedding, and I'm not doing that to her. Its kind of confusing but this is how I pictured it:
Rings:
Oldest male cousin presenting rings, with the two younger male cousins on either side of him, holding ribbons or flags of some sort (going for a grand gesture, I like drama lol)
Flower Party:
1--Youngest Paternal Aunt, Paternal Grandmother
2--Oldest Paternal Aunt, Preteen Cousin (this Aunt's daughter)
3--Step Grandmother (mom's side)
4--Maternal Aunt, Little Girl (this aunt's granddaughter, MOH's daughter, my cousin once removed)
I'm still going back and forth on how I want to group them, but I really like this idea. I'm looking for either reassurance or for someone to tell me I'm crazy. My FH and my mother love the idea, but I have extreme anxiety and I would hate to offend someone or even make an awkward situation. I plan to ask at Christmas, and have the family look forward to doing something together. I got all of the flower party little bracelets with dried flowers in resin. Please let me know your opinion. 
