FMIL is driving me insane. This wedding has been relatively stress-free aside from her antics and I’m at the end of my rope here with 6 months to go until the wedding.
Some backstory: I took my mom and FMIL to a bridal shop to find their mother’s gowns a few weeks ago. I didn’t tell them what to wear, only that I wanted them to be comfortable and I gave some color options that go with our wedding colors. My mom had no problem and chose a dress that matches our color theme well. FMIL chose a dress color that totally clashes our wedding colors…and I decided to let it to. It’s her money and her dress and I’m not here be a dictator about what anyone is wearing. The reason she chose this particular color was because she wants my FH to wear it also, so they can “match”. She has had a total obsession with matching with my FH from the begging. And again, I decided to let it go and be an issue between herself and FH. Shortly after FMIL bought her boldly colored dress, she started trying to dictate what her side of the family should be wearing. She had it in her mind that not only should FH match her, so should all of her sons, husband and grandson so all the men in her family essentially. I had to put my foot down and say no. The color she chose is NOT one of our wedding colors, so why would we have his entire side of the family show up wearing that color? Lol so stupid. Fast forward a few weeks, she confronted my FH and I at our engagement party and asked us (me) through gritted teeth “why the hell” we would let her choose a dress that doesn’t match, like I didn’t give her color suggestions and like she didn’t insist on buying it! She has a new appointment later this month for a new dress. This time she has invited SIL (who she trash talks constantly) and her friend along (she excluded my mother this time!) so now she gets her very own appointment and everyone can watch her try on dresses and she gets to be the center of attention. I don’t even want to go…nor do I want her involved in any of the planning from here on out. I feel like FH is in a difficult spot as this is his mom…but I just can’t stand her behavior.