Thank you to everyone who responded to my last post. the thoughtful words and encouragement gave me a whole new outlook on my wedding, and gave me back my faith in myself that I am not only planning a wedding but it looks good, so here is my update
I am done trying to please my mother while I crave to have that wedding bonding experence I now realize that isn't going to happen and My fiance and I are better off for it, I am no longer going to cater to her wants and needs because it's robbing my fiance and I of this wonderful time in our lives. So from here on out if my fiance and I like an idea were going to roll with it. if she doesn't want to come due to where it is located then thats fine thats money well saved. as for my dress. I don't care if I look like a puffy marshmellow I am wearing my dress for me and no one else. and as far as the colors they are diffrent shades of lavender and light blue with mixes of ivory and hints of champange and cream. if she refuses to come due to colors than thats on her were gonna plan our wedding the way we want to invite who we want and it's going to look great, as for the music almost all of our guests like country and if they don't want to listen to it then they don't have to come. I think what I got frusterated with is I kept changing my ideas to suite everyone else wrobbing myself and fiance of joy and what we want. I am not trying to sound bridezilla just finally setting up bounderies. and from here on out I am not discussing with her any of our choices.
