FOMO?

I like having another person to bounce important decisions off of that is just as invested in the results as I am. We have been including the other in big decisions since we were about 6 months in though so I guess we are used to it.

It makes me feel less alone, honestly, too.

What does FOMO mean?

Also, no. I'm happy that I now have H by my side, for us to figure out our decisions together.

As someone getting married at 24 years old, yes! Of course. Marriage is a major commitment, and the biggest decision of your entire life. You're crazy if you can just hop on in without any worries. Those thoughts will pass I'm sure.

I have the worst case of fomo when FH does things I like to do when I'm at work and he has the same feelings when I do things he likes to do while he's at work, but honestly all our decisions have been for 2 for a while and in that sense I don't envy single people or anything like that!

FOMO=fear of missing out.

And yes, you'll miss out on things if you marry and have children. But you'll also miss out on things if you don't. Ultimately, you just need to decide what things you'd rather miss out on.

I understand where you're coming from. I've been with FH 10 years (since we were 15) and never thought I should be doing anything different in my life. It's nice to think that I could just up and move if I was single, but deep down I know I'm not that kind of person.

We have very different careers - FH travels a lot, so I'm home by myself for weeks on end sometimes. It's nice to live "by myself" for a little bit since I never truly lived on my own without FH, and it's taught me about myself. We enjoy many of the same hobbies and love to just spend time together, but we respect each other's independence. If you don't have any parts of you life that are truly your own, I would be a little worried.

I have been with my FH since I was 16, so there are times when I think about what I could do if I was single. At the end of the day, I know I'm making the right decision.

I can relate! I feel like before FH I had no real obligations aside from my job. I was living at home, but taking trips/vacations easily every other month. I wouldn't give up my life with FH for anything, but damn do I miss shooting a text to my friends and saying 'hey! $229 for a 4 day cruise with allllll the booze let's go!'

Important to mention- not going on those trips because of now owning a house and trying to start my own business, not because FH won't let me have fun, haha

Yes I have had those feelings

This is why I am so happy I waited until I was in my 40's to marry. During my 20's-30's, I traveled and focused on my career and invested my money the way I wanted.

That's what marriage is. It's a sacrifice we make .

I feel like I should clarify a bit - I understand where you're coming from because people have asked this question of me. I gave it a fleeting thought - I am not sitting here wondering what would happen if we weren't together.

I don't. FH and I have a lot of fun together. I always have my best friend by my side and I'm so happy for that.

I don't have those feelings. I actually get really excited to make big decisions with someone else. It's been like that since we started dating.

My first marriage was at 23. I had been with him since I was 18. We had a kid 2 days before I turned 20. I legit felt like I was missing out on everything. And I was. Part of that was him, part of that was by being a mom so young.

I'm 32 now. I've not felt like I'm missing anything. FH and I are about to embark on one hell of a journey together and we are excited about it.

Truthfully...yeah, sort of. I'm 41...so I kind of know I'm not exactly missing out so it's not FOMO but after being independent for so long, it does kind of pop up in my mind. The mutual planning together is still a work in progress.

I'm 26, FH is 28. We still have lots of life to live, and I'm so thrilled to do it together. These are just butterfly thoughts that come through every once in a while. I agree with most pps that it is REALLY nice to have a partner to bounce big decisions off of. There is just a certain amount of spontaneity that is lost with singleness, and I guess I think about that "loss" sometimes.

Eta being with FH is worth any "opportunity cost" that comes with being married, 100%

My FH feels that way like "I can't just quit my job now and move cause I have to think of you." I don't think that because I'd never want to quit my job and move anyways, but it is an adjustment for me like "oh now I have to tell you what if I want to buy a new $200 coat." That's hard. We did get together older though so we were pretty fiercely independent until almost 30.

Yeah. I worry mostly that I hold HIM back from things...especially since I came with a pack of pets. He's used to spontaneous weekend getaways and I'm like "wait, we need a cat sitter, one dog can go to my folks' house and the other one needs to be boarded and it's expensive!"

I don't! My FH is my best friend and he is extremely supportive! I'm 31 and he's 36 and we've dated for 5 years. I've been there and done that and now I'm just ready and have always been comfortable with the idea of being married and having children