Foot Washing Ceremony

A super Catholic couple I knew did this during their ceremony. As a guest/witness, it seemed really strange and intimate. My DH and I were so uncomfortable watching them wash each other. If you really want to do it, go for it though.

I would find this uncomfortable as a guest. Maybe do it privately before/after.

I would be really weirded out watching a foot washing ceremony.

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Did the officiant say anything during the foot washing?

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Completely agree. This would be very uncomfortable and strange for me as a guest, especially as I'm not a Christian.

It’s really weird and awkward. I wouldn’t do it

Definitely something to do privately. I would be uncomfortable as a guest.

I would just do communion together during the ceremony. You could do the washing before or afterwards. It is a very intimate moment, and also logistically tricky. Plus time consuming as the process will take several minutes for each of you to complete. The pastor would need to really explain it so people who are potentially not as familiar with scripture will understand what it is, and why you chose to do it. You could have him explaining it and incorporate it into the message while you two do it off to the side maybe. That way everyone isn't just sitting there in awkward silence for 10 minutes while you do it.

Good to know. Thanks ladies. I think I'll stick to it. I don't care if guests are uncomfortable (I doubt my guests would be uncomfortable). I'm more concerned about the white noise. Was wondering more so about timing too. Seen a bunch of videos and shoes look like a problem. I'm not wearing any but I don't want my future hubby to have struggle getting his off.

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Thanks. That's what I was wondering!

Most people find foot washing (both witnessing it and the concept behind it) offensive these days, but if it's that important to you, you could watch videos or ask the officiant in order to get an idea on the timing.

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Really I didn't know that. I asked a few elders that have done it and their excited to see more young couple doing it. Guess its who you know and where you live.

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I mean, you should definitely care about your guests' comfort since you're asking them to come. Once you invite people to your wedding, it's not just about you anymore. Saying "I don't care if guests are uncomfortable" is extremely off-putting. No one said you can't do it. We just said consider doing it privately.

I had to google this. Seems very, very strange but if your guests are religious and comfortable with it, then go for it I guess.

View Quoted Comment He prefaced the whole thing that it was something jesus had done and they were showing service/dedication to each other. For a solid ten minutes they just washed their feet and it was so awk

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Wrong. It is exactly about me and my husband and only us. I really don't care if people feel uncomfortable (I highly doubt they would as I know my guests on a very personal level). I appreciate everyone's comments but don't tell another person what they should or should care about. Everyone is different. Thanks

You don't care about your guests' comfort? Wow.

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Most of the guests that are coming to the ceremony are older and have done it. But not too religious. Just a good alternative to "jumping the broom" which is very popular in my culture (but I don't really like the meaning behind it).

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Ok gotcha. I wonder what took so long lol. Ive seen quite a few videos and they were all short however, I did purposely skip over anything that was over 5 minutes.

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Of course and I don't think anyone would be uncomfortable as it is very close family and friends. I didn't invite just anyone to the ceremony.