Foot Washing Ceremony

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I don't care how close I was to the couple, I would still be very uncomfortable having to sit through something like this. When you are hosting people you should care about how they feel, that's why people have suggested doing it in private if it is something you and your FH feel strongly about doing it. You would still be able to do it, without taking the risk of making your guests uncomfortable.

And ladies please be honest, what do you find uncomfortable about it? I've watched many videos and don't find it uncomfortable at all. Ive also spoke about it to my brides maids and fiancé of course and they are very familiar with and love the idea. I'm just curious about the different perspectives. Is it maybe a cultural thing?

I have participated in foot washing (sometime hand washing due to the size of the congregation) at church during Maundy Thursday mass as well as during retreats. I think it is extremely moving and definitely reflects the marital relationship. There are many references about including this most humbling tradition as part of your wedding day on Google - below is one. Best wishes!

http://blairblogs.com/2016/01/how-to-incorporate-foot-washing-into-your-wedding-ceremony/

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I honesty don't understand what is so uncomfortable. I literally had to just ask a co-worker what she thinks (shes never heard of it) because I just don't get it lol. I'm still going to go through with it if I believe its not messy once we practice but again I wouldn't care about anyone else's comfort in this situation. I know people that turn their heads during the garter ceremony but it still goes strong (and is often sexual).

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Thank you!

We did this at a Christian summer camp and it is always a huge tear jerker.

If you were to do this at your wedding, please have the officiate explain the true meaning behind it so that your guests understand. I have never seen or heard of one being performed at a wedding but I know that it is an intimate and symbolic ceremony signifying you serving each other.

It does not make a "mess" unless you are being reckless or crazy. the only mess it would make is water so it would be easily cleaned. It does not take too long to remove shoes, but this ceremony requires a chair to assist with washing and removing shoes.

Hope this helped!

If you're concerned about time what about a hand washing ceremony? It probably wouldn't take much longer than the time it would take an officiant to explain as opposed with foot washing it takes longer simply because at least one person has to remove their shoes usually.

View Quoted Comment I mean, I’ve literally never heard of this before. What would make me uncomfortable is it’s performing personal hygiene in a very public manner, and it seems like it’s something that takes a long time where everyone just sits in silence. Also, FH and I have a lot of respect for each other but don’t need to say “bow down and wash my feet.” Just a very strange concept to me.

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OK. Thanks. I am not wearing shoes anyways so thatll make it easier.

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It could be uncomfortable to people that don't like feet. Even if they aren't washing the feet, washing it may make them uncomfortable. I know people who HATE having their feet touched, looking at feet (even their own) or touching other peoples feet. It may seem weird to some, but I can understand these irrational body fears as I REALLY hate my belly button. touching, looking at it, or others touching it freaks me out.

I know you want to do this very badly, and I encourage you to have your way at your own wedding. however please be considerate of your guests and their comfort levels, even if you don't understand. Compromise and do the ceremony, but keep it brief so it isn't uncomfortable for too long. Again, explaining to guests who have never heard of this ceremony before is CRUCIAL so that you aren't just oddly washing feet at your wedding.

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Ive heard of the hand washing ceremony too. I may take that into consideration. Thanks!

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Gotcha. Most people have heard of and some have done it which is why I'm considering it. I really don't think anyone would be uncomfortable though. Its only close family and friends who already know that its the ceremony were considering.

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Ok. I understand that. We look at it as humility. The 1st time I seen it I thought "WTF I'm not touching a mans feet" but I rub and touch my fiancés feet often and he does the same. With this ceremony you don't actually "wash" you just pour the water over and it represents cleaning and purity. But I get it. I think pouring sand and lighting candles is pointless so I get it. Thanks for your honesty!

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LMAO ok. Bless your heart, dear.

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Girl bye. Why are you even still commenting if you having nothing usefull to say?

I don't know understand why people are getting so worked about this. I think the idea is beautiful. If people don't understand, that's okay. The washing symbolizes your love and your life together... and that is what the wedding is about. Not the people, as nice as it is for them to attend. I cannot believe people would be offended by this.

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Me either but hey. Thanks for the positivity!

I think if its something you really want to do, you should. I would have the officient read something off stating the significance of the foot washing ceremony, so the guests understand. There are so many different traditions (foot washing, jumping the broom, breaking the glass) most seem strange to outsiders, but all have beautiful meanings behind that matter more than a few people being uncomfortable.

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Ok, thanks!