For the people losing friends after getting engaged:

I’ve definitely experienced a distancing from many of my friends since the engagement. I’m not sure if it’s because we’ll be the first of our friends to get married, or if I’m just so wrapped up in planning that I don’t take as much time as I previously did to connect with friends.

Anyway, I’m sorry that you’re experiencing the loss of friends during what should be a very special time!

View Quoted Comment Thanks! We’re the 4th couple to get engaged, two of the other couples are married now so for me it’s not that we’re the first ones to take the leap lol. In my case, my “friend” thought she “deserved a ring before me” which is very annoying and doesn’t make any sense lol. But oh well I guess!

View Quoted Comment Oh jeez. That’s so annoying but definitely gives you insight into who your “friend” really is as a person, though!

I've experienced the same with my bestfriend of 16 years! I'd be lying if I said we weren't already growing distant just because of life. It just felt even worse after I was engaged. I ended up finally saying something to her about it; I was pregnant, emotional and just couldn't bite my tongue anymore lol. She felt the same as me and we worked it out. Some friendships/relationships aren't worth salvaging but she's been my bestfriend for too long, we didn't have some big falling out...so it was an easy fix. Communication is key!

There are other relationships that have drifted away and I didn't care to fix them either lol

View Quoted Comment Exactly! 20 years of “friendship” lol

View Quoted Comment This is a friend of 20 years, I’d normally just brush it off but she’s telling our mutual friends that she should’ve had a ring before me because she’s known her boyfriend longer (they were dating for 3 months when I got engaged and in high school she never gave him the time of day because he wasn’t “her type”) then on top of that I’m struggling figuring out what I want to do for a career and currently I’m not in the best financial state and she always feels the need to tell me about how she’s going to be a nurse by next year and her boyfriend is going to take a welder test so they’ll be making SO MUCH MONEY. Like trying to rub things in my face...I think I’ve finally just come to a breaking point unfortunately.

View Quoted Comment I’m glad you and your friend were able to fix things!!

15 years of friendship down the drain because she's all about her self, was mad because my wedding party is family only. I think she thought she was going to be MOH for whatever reason. I never gave her hope about being in my wedding party( as mean as that sounds) . She assumed it. She is a very toxic person. We've had falling outs like every year because she would be mad at something i did. i don't need that negativity in my life. She's done the same to her other friend of 15 years +. So this year i've had it with the shenanigans with her. No need to be friends with that.

I totally agree to all the ladies here .my best friend for 10 years the Moment she found out that I was getting engaged she seem happy but A month later she stop talking to me ,stop reaching out to me I reached out and called I went to her house she never wanted to talk to me again so I let that go it’s not my loss at the end of the day that’s her lost. My life keeps going At the end of the day I realize she really was not my friend

I grew distant with most of my friends just because we're all on different paths in life. My engagement still isn't widely known but those who do know, I can definitely feel more distance. It sucks that it's like this but I'm not really sure what else you can do. It's life I guess.

THANK YOU for posting this! I didn’t lose friends after I got engaged but I think that’s only because I lost a huge number just from getting serious in my relationship. My FH and I dated through most of college, and we shared a group of friends... when we first started dating, we started inviting my friends and his friends over at the same time, and then they ALL became friends with each other. It was great at the time, until we were together over a year and started getting really serious, a few of them started becoming distant from us, stopped inviting us to things (even though we had introduced them all to each other.....) and my roommate/one of my best friends at the time literally confronted my FH to tell him he could do a lot better than me. One of FH’s friends tried to talk him out of proposing. Most of the others just stuck by each other instead of us through all this drama, and we literally only talk to 1 of the people from this group anymore (he agrees they’re all immature and terrible, he was FH’s roommate for 2 years and his best friend, and is now a groomsman lol).

It SUCKS when people are so immature, and lash out instead of being happy for you! It is really reassuring to know that this seems to happen to a lot of people though. I guess the only positive part of this is that you don’t waste more time on people who obviously aren’t real friends. But I’m so sorry for everyone on this thread