For the people who didn't know the correct way to ask for money Instead of a gift.

Okay, so I capitalized Bride and Dollar - and not groom and dollar. LOL.

Well Kathy, that is your opinion and we are entitled to our own.

@Kathy R.- I totally agree with you! If I received one of those, I probably wouldn't give them anything.

@Mrs. Reid- Your poems are cute, but I would never give them to my guest. I find them to be rude.

I think the point is that a Gift is a just that - a gift. You can't assume anyone will give you one or ask for one in anyway. Because it is a gift - not a requirement. I think that's why it's better to do word of mouth regarding the money, because who says anyone has to buy you a gift? it's not a requirement of them attending your wedding (contrary to popular belief).

Thanks for explaining that dollar dance Christian, I had never heard or seen it at any wedding I've been to, interesting but not for me to do.

@Mrs. Reid, I'm glad you posted this for those who are looking for a way to ask, I've seen quite a few posts on this topic, hopefully they will use them to get what they want, however I'm with Kathy, I personally would have second thoughts on giving any gift if I was asked to specifically give money. I've always believe that giving gifts is generous but not a requirement, asking for specifics would make it feels that way.

I hope everyone get their wishes & like I said before, not having a registry or a bridal shower is more than enough to give people the hint that you don't need gifts, it worked for my brother & they got a few thousands alltogether at the reception.

2 Purple these are not my poems. This was for some people who wanted to know how do people approach their guests about gifts.

@ Patricia I was surprise when I came across it I was looking at wedding Invitations and went to click on wording and then I seen this.

Just wanted to let anyone know that because I posted this doesn't mean that I plan on doing this.

"because I posted this doesn't mean that I plan on doing this." YOU LIE! Just kiddin'. lol

But (based on several posts here) these poems (or variations of them) will be put to use, I'm sure. On card stock. In coordinating wedding colors. Ha!

@Michele G. If you do not register, you will just get a bunch of different things that do not match. It is so much better if you do so that you get the colors you want and the things that you can use. If people are going to give you money they will but it is improper to ask.

LOL they just might we will never know, But on another note My PATRIOTS just did it again. !

I think it completely depends on region and age as to whether this is acceptable or not... You best bet all around is to get a Honeymoon registery because even if you don't want a traditional registery, everyone needs help with honeymoon right?

Money is a GIFT. instead of a toaster you get a bill. still a gift, still optional. its almost the same telling someone that I want a specific toaster or towel as to tell them that I want money. even when you register at a store, people don't take that as a demand. so asking for a monetary gift can be seen as registering at the bank and the gist is the paper bills. just because its money it doesn't make it different than a toaster or a towel.... I think its ok to ask for money, with all do respect I'm inviting all those people and paying for their dinner and drinks plus many other things to decorate the room and provide a fun night and entertainment, which does cost a lot of money. due to the fact that everyone knows how expensive it is to organize a wedding they almost always feel obligated to contribute, either with money or with a gift. in most cases the money would help 10 times better. (cont)

Also when you say you would prefer money over a gift that is still not a requirement, its voicing a preference of that type of gift you would prefer. the guest can still chose whether to bring money, gift, or nothing at all! I personally think its ok to say you prefer money as a gift and planning on doing so.

Thank you so much for posting this. We are definitely gonna be using one of these as we are one of those couples that already lives together. I was trying to see how I can word it nicely to give money instead of gifts

@Lilaj, I just like to add that giving a gift vs money is not the same at least to me and most people I've spoken to about this subject. Reason why, because I can personalize something that cost me under $5 & to the person receiving the gift, it is the most valuable gift they've received, but if I were to hand them a $5 gift card or put a $5 bill in an envelop, most people would see it as an insult like I should've probably kept that $5 to myself. The same goes for other gifts, you can buy something for cheap that would normally cost a fortune but when u are told to give money only there are no room for bargain.

I do give out a lot of gift cards as gift mostly when I procrastinate and I always end up spending more that I would've if I'd brought a gift, then again to each his/her own. In this economy...mh

Lilaj b. - WELL PUT!

This whole antiquated view of marriages is just that.... old fashioned. Who am I or even who are you all to tell someone what is or is not acceptable? I've seen plenty of centerpieces on here that don't necessarily fit my taste, but to each his/her own! WW forums are becoming a bit too stuffy and judgmental. There's a market for "monetary" wedding gifts, or there wouldn't be such poems, or honeymoon registries for that matter.

No one's opinion was even asked about this. It was "here's an offering to help those who may be thinking about it!" How that was turned into "offensive" and "unacceptable" beats me!

GEESH!

I think many brides will use these poems because they think it's okay. Invite companies list these on their site promoting them, making them seem like they are perfectly acceptable.

I think we are in a changing society. In 10 years, this will be the norm. I still think it's tacky and rude, but that's my personal opinion. I also think evites for a wedding are tacky, but they are becoming more and more common.

I think we'll be seeing alot more of these poems in the future. But regardless of how 'established' your household is, everyone can use new towels or some pretty candles and picture frames. I think it's better to create a very small registry and let people take the hint.

And even if you ask for money...what if the "gift" is $20, instead of $200? What if at the day, your total adds up to less than a G? It's not even worth it to me. Even if this would be of interest to me, I'd pass and opt for more towels and appliances I don't have yet (like a juicer or that bigger George Foreman).

@Jasmine - I don't think it's offensive to spread the word that cash gifts are preferable. I think it's offensive as hay-ELL to put a twee little cutesy poem in your invitation packet that essentially shakes your loved ones down for cash. It makes me think of a little kid squirming and bouncing up and down and acting all cute because he wants a piece of candy. If you're mature enough to get married, you're mature enough to politely ask for what you want, without resorting to a silly poem.

Nothing on your invitation should make any reference to gifts - that info is better shared via your website or word-of-mouth. If I got one of these poems in the mail, I'd first wonder if the bride was a teenager who dots her i's with little hearts, and then my feelings would be hurt that the couple didn't care enough to just invite me to celebrate their marriage, without hitting me up for money. A centerpiece that isn't to my taste isn't going to hurt anyone's feelings. A "gimme gimme" poem*MORE*