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Jamie, on December 31, 2019 at 11:36 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 9

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So I'm inviting 3 of my former coworkers to our wedding, we stay in contact still (check in every few months or so.) They are super excited about the wedding, but I'm not sure if I should invite them to the bridal shower or not. I don't want it to seem like I'm expecting anything from them, but I also don't want to seem rude for not inviting them. They are older than me (only 10 yrs younger than my parents), but not super into traditional wedding stuff. The shower is still 8mo away, so there's time to think about guest lists. As a coworker myself, I've noticed 2 coworkers that have gotten married in the last couple years didn't invite coworkers to their shower, but did to the wedding. So I'm not sure what protocol is.

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Latest activity by Kristen, on December 31, 2019 at 3:15 PM

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Caytlyn · on December 31, 2019 at 11:44 AM
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Everyone that's invited to the wedding doesn't need to be invited to the shower, that's not rude. I personally feel like gift giving events should be reserved for your nearest and dearest.
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Sophie · on December 31, 2019 at 11:44 AM
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I feel like it’d be fine to invite them, and if they’d rather not come they can just decline!
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Kristen · on December 31, 2019 at 11:53 AM
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I think you should invite them because I know that if I'm invited to a wedding but I'm not invited to other events I would take it a little bit personal. For one of my friends weddings I was invited to the shower and the wedding but it was odd that the bachelorette party with kept small. I'm sure there are reasons why but at first it kind of rub me the wrong way that I wasn't invited even though I was coming to the wedding. They don't have to go and of course at a shower no one is obligated to give you a gift so you can always let me know that you just really want their company.
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Willow · on December 31, 2019 at 12:08 PM
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A bridal shower is supposed to be your nearest and dearest wedding guests. People you feel comfortable opening lingerie in front of. If you are referring to these guests as former coworkers and you are self conscious about appearing gift grabby to them, they don't fall into the category of people I'd invite, personally. My friend is having 15 guests at her shower and 10 of us are bridesmaids.

At the end of the day, you do whatever you are comfortable with.
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Jamie · on December 31, 2019 at 12:22 PM
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Honestly, I'd be more comfortable opening lingerie in front of my coworkers than my fiance's mother and grandmother! Lol. 😅😅😂
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Jamie · on December 31, 2019 at 12:23 PM
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That's what I thought too, but my mom is throwing my shower and she's planning on inviting a couple of her coworkers (who are also invited to the wedding.) 🤷‍♀️
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Jamie · on December 31, 2019 at 12:24 PM
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Very true!
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Jamie · on December 31, 2019 at 12:24 PM
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True! I definitely don't want them to feel snubbed in anyway!
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Kristen · on December 31, 2019 at 3:15 PM
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I have only done sexy gifts at a bachelorette. All bridal showers the gifts given were on the registry for the home. Lol. I also agree would much rather open lingerie in front of coworkers then family lol.
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