Foul! Which guest deserves a flag on the play?

Actually one of my bridesmaids is asking me to invite her friends 🤪

View Quoted Comment It's really hard having your mother be so difficult when it comes to the wedding. It's a special time, and the last thing you want is added stress and drama. Mine is just unhappy with everything. I don't even want to talk to her about any of it anymore, so I don't. I'm really sorry that you are dealing with a similar situation!

My mom has also been making planning most stressful. At this point I don't bring it up, even if she asks I politely change the subject. It's not that I don't want to plan with her and gush with her about it all but she makes it so negative! The worst has been comparing my wedding and budget to my previous engagement (it didn't follow through). And after asking me how things are going, bringing up in a conversation down the road "oh I'm really tired of hearing about all this wedding talk"

She even decided since I'm bringing my fiance on the weekend I invited her to go dress shopping with me (destination, we all have to fly in) and getting a lot of planning out of the way she doesn't want to come and thinks it'll be better just me and him. Btw.. his step mom will be with me trying on dresses, and her and his dad will be going to the bridal show with us.

The most annoying offenders are the people (one in particular) that isn't invited and keep leaving FB and instagram messages, like oh when are you sending invites, oh where is it, oh when is.. we're keeping a password on our website for a reason.

I have had a lot of people try to invite themselves. They see a ring on my finger and they "expect their invitation". Mostly people I work with that I barely know.

View Quoted Comment oh my goodness! That definitely sounds like a flag on the play...list of unacceptable dates?! My goodness...smh

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Ugh. I know, right?! Too bad it's not appropriate to send them a bill for their plate.

My mom is upset that I opted for a 7:30 wedding instead of a 6:00 wedding. I’m sorry that I have a particular Vision for my wedding and an early start is just not apart of that!

We've had a lot of people say things like "I better be invited!" Or "I've already got my outfit picked out/room booked!" Even though we were not going to invite them... we just spoke and add them to the list. Luckily we don't have big families on either side so if a friend or coworker really wants to be there, we have room

Well, one of them chose to go around telling the whole family we didn't invite her, when we definitely did. We were given their address (directly from them) as "___ & ____" at the same address, so we sent one invite addressed to them both since that's how they gave us the info. Apparently that equals not inviting her 🙄.

Then my cousin got so drunk at our reception that she was making special requests to our DJ for her and I to have our own special dance right after the parent dances....uhm no... and she also pissed off my MOH (I think by spilling on her?)... and threw up a few times, thankfully in the bathroom.

View Quoted Comment I hate this! We posted it when we got engaged because we were happy and we wanted our friends and family to know and be excited for us then I started getting comments to can’t wait for the wedding or hopefully I’m invited, I would love to go, I even got one that said I better be a bridesmaid. If you are close to me or my FH you will get invited but if you arnt close to us and feel the need to remind me you knew me back in high school you can count on not being invited.

My mom has been giving me a hard time with the destination wedding. My friends and FH friends are in San Francisco and my family and childhood friend’s are in Los Angeles so we plan to make the wedding in The middle I didn’t want to do it in LA because we wanted a forest theme wedding and it’s to hot in LA for anything to grow or last long. So our only options were to have it near San Francisco (which everything is crazy expensive) or somewhere inbetween. We decided on inbetween everyone has to travel 3-4 hours including myself we all have to pay for a place to sleep but instead I get more compliments about it. My mom and my family are trying to convince to make it in LA to make it more convenient for them but that’s the last place I want to make it. I have 100 guests coming who are all on the same boat.

SIL planning a fake wedding on our real renewal date aka our anniversary.

Several people RSVP'd but didn't show up. We had a lot of left over food. Which wasn't a horrible issue because my grandmother-in-law did all of our food so we just took it home with us and I didn't have to cook for a few days. For our vow renewal, we are being much more selective with out guest list though.

The only "issue" we have had is with FH step-mom. She is very religious and we are not so she has been peeved with many things we have decided to do, or not do. 1) we aren't getting married in a church 2) we did not ask her pastor to officiate 3) because it is on a Sunday, we had to move the ceremony to start after her morning service 4) we have not asked her opinion on anything or asked her to help. Her way of "helping" is taking over and changing everything to what she thinks the church would approve of. 5) I turned down her offer for a bridal shower when she told me I was not allowed to have any of my family or friends there, it was only going to be her church friends.

We got engaged in February and I've already had friends who I haven't spoken to in years wanting all the details. We only want close friends and family so a lot aren't going to make the cut

My great-aunt asked us "to just change our wedding date" because it is on the same day as my second-cousin's wedding.

I have very few requests from my BMs... I want them to all wear the same dress and the same shoes (flats). I took one BM to get fitted for her dress and she had A COW that I was not wearing heels and that I was not wanting my bridal party to wear heels. I have my reasons, but she dragged me to the shoe section in DB and was putting on all the heels acting all obnoxious in front of everybody. I was very annoyed by this and honestly just wanted to leave her there.

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Oh man! How rude!!!

If I had gotten that text about the dates, I think I would have chosen one of the "unacceptable" ones just to watch her freak out!!! LOL

Sorry, that's probably mean and inappropriate. But so was her text.

I have multiple guests in this field aha.
1) keeps telling people how she wants a plus one and I never gave her it because i was out of space
2) a guest who RSVPd for a plus one when we didn't give him one
3) and a groomsman who was overall being kind of annoying

I've been asked to change my date, but that's not happening. Some people are just plain rude.