I am absolutely torn!!!
Half of my family likes to party (and I want to too), but the majority of the guests (including my fiancé's side) will fall largely in these two categories:
-Parents with very young children. -Folks with 9-5s who are 40+.
My father has offered to help pay, but I do not want to take advantage of his kindness, and (BIG Red Flag) if he did, it would mean that I would have to put up with my mom (my abuser- other post) if she didn't play nice for the night. My mom has a tendency to make others feel uncomfortable and like she is the center of attention. Being able to pay for our own wedding means that my fiancé and I can kick out whomever we want in a worst case scenario.
To top it off, this wedding will be a "destination wedding": The average travel in miles for the majority of our guests will be an average of 400 miles (driving or flight). We chose our venue based on a location we liked and a "midway" point for the majority of our families and guests, and where hotels and lodgings could be found to accommodate a range of budgets.
HELP PLEASE!
Has anyone had to chose between these dates?
What were your pros and cons? Any regrets?
What made you decide one over the other, or did you bite the bullet and pay the cost for a Saturday?
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