Friend acting weird?

Wait, so her actions were what exactly? She reached out to you and asked how it was... I would answer her. I don't see what the issue is.

I'm also curious about what a white wedding is. People of many races opt to have Americanized weddings.

Please tell me you mean "white wedding" as in Billy Idol, rather than the alternative...

I guess I don't really see an issue here either but also confused as to what you meant by "white wedding."

Don't worry. You were super apprehensive and didn't know how much fun it would be so she didn't think it was important. Tell her what you told us.

The white wedding is the American wedding. Her actions was that she didn’t congratulate me. Is that not weird that your best friend wouldn’t congratulate you?

I am going to stay positive an assume she means the white wedding by the color of her dress.

I don't know what a "white wedding" is....but I wouldn't be upset with your friend. So she didn't text you the day of/day after congratulating you and going all out? You're having a second wedding anyhow and she still asked you how it was rather than ignoring you all together. I would just talk to her, tell her it was amazing and she was missed and move on. Don't let something this little ruin a friendship.

If she reached out to ask about your first wedding, I would not withhold the information from her. You may not need to provide details, but you can definitely express how much you enjoyed sharing the day with your husband and the traditions of his family. Many couples hold dual celebrations, especially if they come from diverse backgrounds. There is no reason to be anxious or ashamed. Congratulations on the success of your first ceremony!

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Just saw this since we were commenting on it at the same time. I am confused why you would call it a white wedding. Why not just the american wedding?

Omg yes she means a white dress Jesus not everything is about skin color seriously!

View Quoted Comment I would just say American wedding...

No, it's not weird to me. Honestly, I wouldn't know what to do besides ask how it was if someone I knew was having 2 ceremonies. I don't believe she's trying to be malicious, especially since she was the one to reach out to you. I would just answer her question. You're overthinking this.

Out of curiousity, did you actually sign the license at this past ceremony?

It might not have bothered you that your friend couldn’t make it to the first wedding, but it sounds like it bothered her. That or, since you didn’t seem to look forward to these festivities, she was just trying to keep it lighthearted and hear a few stories from your big day.

From what I'm reading, you made it sound like this first wedding wasn't as big of a deal as you didn't want it to take away from wedding #2, so she probably didn't realize how much it meant to you. I'm sure there will be a lot more excitement on her end for the wedding she is going to be a part of.

She seems like a good friend if she helped pay for/plan a bridal shower in your honor. I would answer her and tell her you had a great time, and then move on.

View Quoted Comment I honestly don't think it's that big of a leap to assume you were talking about skin colors since you literally stated that your FH's ethnicity is the reason you're having two ceremonies.

You're upset your friend didn't say congrats?

She's still coming to the other wedding, correct?

Standing by your side as your MOH?

She still asked you how it was. You said you were apprehensive about it so she was probably just wondering how it went.

No need to be upset with her, have a normal conversation I don't see how that would make it awkward?

And she probably texted you four days later because she figured you'd be busy.

I'm slightly dumbfounded that this is considered an "issue" and idk how your friend is acting "weird"

View Quoted Comment Lol i didn’t realize that would cause so much confusion but i see now what people thought😂

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This. You basically said it wasn't a big deal and then you're upset she didn't make a big deal out of it?? Goodness.

View Quoted Comment Sorry, had a brain fart and thought you were OP. But my statement still stands that it isn't that big of a leap.

Let me address the “white wedding” comment first lol. My husband’s family calls it the “white wedding” because you wear a white wedding dress lol. I’ve been around them so long I’ve just picked up the lingo and call it that as well. Sorry for the confusion. Their traditional wedding has very vibrant colors.

Also so thank you for putting this into perspective. It’s just that with so many others saying congratulations it was a little weird having her be so quiet regarding this. But I agree with the ladies that think I’m over thinking it.

View Quoted Comment LB where did I say this was upsetting?!