Friend Assumes She Is a Bridesmaid! Help

I think I would just tell her that you've already chosen your bridal party, but she's absolutely still invited to the wedding and welcome to be a part of the pre-wedding events (if you're comfortable with that). I know you don't want to hurt her feelings, but it's really on her for assuming when you didn't ask her, very rude in my opinion.

I had a friend like this. Told me I was the problem in all my relationships that were borderline abusive and then talked crap about my now fiance who is so amazing, kind and respectful. One day I finally just blocked her number and all contact. Best decision of my life. Doesn't sound like you are there yet but you are going to have to have a heart to heart especially due to the circumstances. Be straight with her. Don't coddle her feelings, she is an adult. Tell her that you are at a point of your life where you need positivity and support. Not to sit around bashing other people. Tell her that this is why you have chosen to go with bridesmaids a,b and c. Personally, I dont find an easy way to break it to her besides just laying the problem out there. She probably will be hurt, act like she isn't an issue and even blame you. Most people don't like to hear their flaws. However, the conversation is going to have to happen.

I would tell her that you aren't able to have her as a bridesmaid. Tell her it was a really difficult choice but you weren't able to have everyone you wanted, and that you still value your friendship with her. Don't tell her it's because she's too loud/annoying - that will irrevocably hurt your friendship.

View Quoted Comment This! Try to concentrate in the good and how you appreciate her efforts, etc. It will still be a little awkward but try to always concentrate on the good while telling her.

Tell her, "Just as a heads up, I'm already at max capacity for bridesmaids. The costs are adding up faster than I thought they would."
Do you even want her at the wedding? How annoying!

Thanks ladies. These are all great suggestions! I'm just dreading it, because she gets hurt easily.. but I know it's mine and my FH day, and the wedding party should include those closest to us. She will still get an invite to the wedding, and if it turns sour after finding out she isn't in the party, I will just roll with it.

If she's really the annoying, I wouldn't feel too bad telling her she's not a bridesmaid. It's really rude on her part to just assume she would be one and put you in this sticky predicament!