Hi everyone,
Need some advice/venting about bridesmaid drama.
I have a friend I’ve had for a very long time, since before high school. She’s always been supportive- physically attending my life’s important events and achievements. I’m close with her family and they treat me as their own. Over the past couple of years, she’s been really mean towards me- making fun of what I wear, pushed my ex boyfriend, coughed on me (on purpose) when she was sick....these are just a few examples of her immature and bullying behavior. Because of this, I’ve distanced myself from her.
It’s complicated because this friend, myself, and a few other friends are all a “group”. Fast forward to getting engaged, I chose not to have her as a bridesmaid. I thought I’d call her to tell her the news, which was really hard. She was obviously hurt, saying she’s been there for me through everything...I told her I appreciate her friendship and that I want her to be apart of all my future festivities. Well, 2 of my bridesmaids are from this said “group.”
Every since I told her she’s not a bridesmaid, she’s basically dropped me as friend. She treats me totally different- like an acquaintance. She hasn’t said she’s coming to my bachelorette or even my wedding. I sent her a little Christmas gift in the mail and she didn’t ever say thank you. Me and a friend from the “group” were both were sick these past few weeks, and she sent this friend a get well card. I feel stupid for even sending her something because clearly she doesn’t care.
Our friendship died all because I didn’t put her in my wedding. I feel so icky, the situation makes me feel like I did something wrong. I now feel somewhat responsible for the weird disruption and dynamics change in our friend “group.” But I know I’m not!!!
Anyone experienced something similar? Thoughts? Advice?
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