Friend I used to be close with is not inviting me to her wedding

You used to be close. Things changed. You are an hour away. It doesn't sound like you have been close fora longtime, fb or not.

FH & I have both went through a similar thing and it hurts. When we made my guest list I had to decide if I wanted to invite these people or leave them off the list. We decided to keep them on but if we have to cut we know where to start.

It sucks, but it happens. Some people have really large families and that leaves little room for others. We are only inviting only family and close friends to ours. I truly hope everyone understands because we can't afford to invite every college friend or old roommate or even sorority sister to my wedding. Do I like them any less. No, we truly don't have the room after its all said and done. We can only fit so many in our reception venue and we're maxed out.

There were a lot of people that I couldn't invite despite having been close with before. I had to set a limit to only those I had seen in the last year. I wouldn't take it personally. It doesn't mean she doesn't want to be friends. The couple might have a really large family.

So? I'm not inviting my best friend from high school to my wedding.

I really think this is something you can't take tooooo personal. I don't know how far along you are in your wedding plans but I can definitely sympathize with only being able to invite a certain amount of people because cost does add up quickly.

So, I would cut my friend some slack, especially if I hadn't actually talked to them in a while, other than FB.

Yes, it is true that we are not that close anymore, but she still acts like she wants to be my friend. Well, sorry, I don't have room in my life for fake friends.

I understand that you can't invite everyone, but if she's inviting 175 people, that just says to me that I'm not that important to her. Bottom line is she acts like she wants to be my friend, but doesn't act like a real friend would.

I will say this. We are inviting around 300 people. Only a small amount is friends. The rest is all family. Big doesnt necessaraly mean all friends

Key words: USED to be. Sorry you feel that way, but frankly, it's totally understandable why she wouldn't. I wouldn't.

Wedding guest lists are tricky. It's ok to be hurt, but I wouldn't be bitter about it.

A girl I work with had a 400 person wedding of all close friends and family. She had to cut out a lot of friends because of space at the venue. I wouldn't overreact. You don't know the full situation.

You said "used" to be close with.. so that's your answer right there. Do I think you needed to unfriend/unfollow her? No. Wedding's are extremely complicated especially when it comes to the guest list. I would try not to take it personally.

I understand you being a bit touched however, I wouldn't put to much into it...as the other ladies have said you can't assume the number of people she invited included everyone under the sun except you. I have to leave a lot of people off my list - friends and family because if I invite all family I won't have fun but if I invite all friends, I won't have family. Once you start your guest list you will completely understand...it's the biggest headache of the process.

I think you're taking this whole thing a little too far. I love my college roommate, but we talk about once a month and same goes with other friends I use to be close with. I still want them as friends and we talk occasionally and its like old times. I don't even have room to invite co-workers I talk to everyday or even second cousins twice removed.

175 isn't that big of a wedding. Numbers add up quickly - if you haven't put together your guest list yet, you'll find out soon enough how hard it is. You don't know the whole situation and frankly you're acting childish about it. Money is also an issue and if they're getting help - parents have a say in the guest list as well and are entitled to invite their friends and neighbors.

Sorry you felt hurt, but don't be that person.

Love ALL of your responses.

I'm sure everyone has already posted my thoughts.

But in defense of your "175 guest list" comment. I wrote down my family, aunts, uncles, grandparents and cousins only and it was about 113. Those are people I would never consider not inviting. I would pick my cousin over someone I used to be close with. So it may truly be family of TWO people. And either way, it's not your place to judge that, I think.

And it happens. My two best friends growing up didn't invite me to theirs for the same reason you said, we USED to be close.

I rarely see my best friend from high school, and sometimes go a while without even talking to her, but she is one of my bridesmaids. She is a true friend no matter how often we talk or how close we are now. She will always be my girl.

I totally understand how the guest list can be, especially if the parents are paying for the wedding. My guest list is at 100 right now, but 2 more people is not a big deal to me. I would rather have my friends there. There are obviously people I am not inviting, but they are not people who I try to act like there's a friendship when clearly there's not anymore.

So if you used to be close, feel like she's acting like a "fake" friend that you don't have time for and seem to not care all that much about her for the previously mentioned reason... why the hell do you care about not being invited?

Just think of it this way. You saved yourself a long drive a the money on a present.