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Friend I used to be close with is not inviting me to her wedding

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Event Lady, on January 4, 2014 at 2:17 PM

I have a friend that I used to be very close with and I just found out she is not inviting me to her wedding in October. We met during college and were good friends for a year or two. We lived over an hour away from each other and still hung out a few times a week. After she met her fiance, all that changed. We stopped hanging out and now she is not even inviting me to her wedding. I talked to her on FB and she apologized for not being able to invite me. I asked her how many people she is inviting and she said 175! She said it is mostly family and close friends. I guess I didn't make the cut! I have unfollowed her on FB and don't really wanna be friends with her anymore. This is just a rant, say what you will.

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Shannon Giraffes. · on January 5, 2014 at 12:47 PM
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I guess it depends how close you guys really were, and how long ago, only you know the real dynamic of your friendship, so don't let the people of WW tell you how to feel. I would probably be hurt too. And I agree, it's just 2 more people, and she's bound to get some people that aren't able to come. I mean unless she's got a VERY STRICT budget and guest list, that's just silly to talk to you all about the wedding and give details, but not invite you.
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LetItSnow · on January 5, 2014 at 12:52 PM
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Adding just two more, just two more, just two more really can add up. Since you are not currently close, why would she invite you? Maybe if she was to add 'just two more' you wouldn't be the first she would think of. I don't think anyone should expect to be invited to anyones wedding. It's very presumptuous.
I'm having 220 at my wedding and I have lots of friends and people who I've attended their wedding, that I'm not inviting. They would be offended if they knew how many people were invited and they didn't make the cut. However, FH and I both have large extended families that make up the bulk of our invites. It's not fair for people to assume that since I'm having a large wedding that all people who were ever important in my life should be invited.
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Mrs. Noratel · on January 5, 2014 at 1:02 PM
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People change and go their separate ways. I have an ex-bestfriend who I am not inviting to the wedding. We met in kindergarten and were inseperable up until high school. Then things changed and we went separate ways. We are friends on FB and have remained friends on their and she will message me here and there but it's not a real in depth conversation. Even though we used to be super close, I'm not inviting her and she hasn't mentioned it at all and still seems happy for me.
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BunnyLove · on January 5, 2014 at 1:14 PM
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Don't take it personally. Her budget/venue may not be able to accommodate everyone. Also, if her not inviting you to her wedding is a deal breaker for you, then you were never really her friend.
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Gina · on April 13, 2021 at 9:06 AM
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I had a childhood friend not invite me to her wedding. I understood that she had a large family and he did too. I know for a fact that she invited another friend. A few days ago, my mother and I had gone to church and afterwards, she came up to me. I honestly wanted to avoid her and not really speak to her and my mom started speaking to her. I kept on speaking to her w/o looking at her eyes. I think she felt that b/c I never really gave her the cold shoulder. When I look back, I feel like I have given more than her. It is a v/painful pill to swallow.
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