Friend Owes Bridesmaid Money - Bachelorette

So I'm not sure why BM didn't pay for her own drinks but at the end of the day it was for your bachelorette and they should have never come to you about this crap.

I've gone in on group presents before where one person might not pay and of course we talk about it amongst the rest and split it up but NEVER thought about going to the person we gave the gift to and being like "So and so didn't pay their portion so I'm gonna need you to go ahead and give us the money" this is essentially the same thing.

I'm sorry that happened. To keep the peace I would pay the $60.

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I think if you want to avoid creating any additional drama just decide how you want to handle it. Don't pay it all but say you aren't responsible - that will create drama. You either can put your foot down and say I'm sorry its not my responsibility, pay the full amount or offer half the amount.

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Same. I HATE owing people money.

If it was me I would pay bm the $60 and be done with it. Seems like a lot of drama and unnecessary stress for you to be dealing with now over $60

View Quoted Comment Yeah, that is frustrating. It honestly isn't an amount that should be truly troublesome. It would be perfectly reasonable and acceptable for you to ask the two girls to work it out without involving you. But if you want to do something about it because they did involve you, that would be understandable as well. There really isn't a wrong way for you to handle it, in my opinion. There is just what you feel is best. It sucks that it even became a thing.

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Op I wouldn't do this, either. That's being very passive aggressive and could leave a bad taste in your BM's mouth. Just pay the money, be done with the drama, and be wary of your friend in the future.

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I hear you but it's leaving a bad taste in my mouth that she would come to me with this days before my wedding.

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What would it solve to text that to her, though? Two wrongs don't make a right, in this case it would create resentment. It was crappy of her to go to you for the money but rubbing that in her face will only give you satisfaction of the last word, but what good is that if it hurts the friendship?

Is a few dollars really worth losing this friendship over? Are we talking like $50-$60 or a $300 tab? I would cough up the cash personally. Your friends love you, not each other. If there is even a hint of ill feelings going on between the bridesmaids that could spill over on your wedding day, pay the $.

View Quoted Comment I’m thinking the same way... maybe the BM shouldn’t have paid for the friend’s drinks... who comes without money or a credit card to go to a club or party?