Friend Scheduling wedding 1 wk before ours...

I did the same thing as well with one of my best friends...she was engaged on christmas and me on valentines day...she did set her date first. i had originally had my date set for march 2009, but moved it up to the same month (now down to the same week) as hers because of a serious illness in my fiancees family...i could understand why anyone would be mad, but at the same time, dates a free game. but it wouldnt be a bad idea to suggest if they move their date since you were engaged first. and if it doesnt change, then just go on planning your wedding and be merry...

I have to agree with mrsattaway2008, theres really no rule about this. But i also see your point and i would def be somewhat upset, and expect and explanation from my friend as to why they have decided NOW on a date so close to mine, when they have already been engaged for 2 yrs. I don't think you would out of line if you spoke to him/her, they are stealing your thunder.

GOOD LUCK! either way im sure your wedding will be wonderful!

Unless each of you are going to be in the wedding party for both weddings I do not see this as being a issue. However if you are in their wedding and vice versa the expense could turn out to be too much. While paying for your own wedding, you would need to fork up the money for a bridesmaide dress, tux rental, a portion of her bridal shower, gifts, as well as part of the batcholer/ette party. All while paying for your own wedding just a week after. If you will not be in their wedding, and them in yours there is not much you can say.

I do however understand why you feel they are taking your spot light. I had just gotten married this past 6/9/07 I was engaged with the date set for 2 yrs. One my bf's, who was in my wedding, became engaged feb 2007 and scheduled her date one week after mine. Honestly I was so upset. There was no need for the quick marriage, as well as she last min, backed out of her portion of my shower and batch party as she could not now afford it.

Best of Luck

Well this is interesting. If the good friend knows the date you set for your upcoming wedding, I would definitely want to know why they chose a date so close to yours. If the same guest will not be attending your wedding, I don't see the problem. If you are in the wedding, that can cause financial burden. I would suggest talking to the couple to see the motive for choosing that date

I would definitely talk with them. Perhaps your wedding date has slipped their mind. No insult intended but sometimes when we try to plan something there are so many things that are buzzing in our heads that we totally forget what is going on in other peoples lives. In any case I would definitely talk with them especially if the same people are attending both of your weddings. It can be hard on guests having to go to weddings so close together maybe they just didnt realize it. But if it turns out that the weddings are a week apart then don't let it ruin your day. It happened to me. I had a friend that was supposed to be my bridesmaid and I was engaged over a year before I got married. She got engaged after me and planned her wedding the week BEFORE mine, I asked her why and she totally didnt do it on purpose while picking a date she never remembered my wedding day. Although she wound up not being in my wedding for she was away on her honeymoon, everything turned out just fine.

I think you have every right to be mad I would be. My fiance and I were in the middle of picking a date for our wedding when we found out I was pregnant our first thought was to move up the wedding asap but the deposits had been made and the only open date was one week before our best friends wedding we felt horrible to do that to them so we actually stuck with our original date which consequently is after the baby is born.