Friends as my "Something Blue"

I find it odd. Either ask me to be a BM (which IMO is an honor, not a hassle), or let me be a guest.

You have literally said you want to use your friends as props for photos. This is a bad idea. If I were invited as a guest to a wedding and the bride told me to wear a certain dress, I'd be like...

Hmm, I don't think this is going to work out the way you like - there are so, so many shades of blue, so if you want them to look like they're part of a group, they won't. Let alone as "props" in photos - if they all had the same dress, in the same shade, it would work. But one in long teal, one in a halter top robin's egg, one in a navy sundress she already had, one in a short turquoise, one in a ruffled cobalt... It's just going to look like people in dresses. Furthermore, the "nice event" dresses I already have are not blue, so I would have to shop for one, as if I were a bridesmaid, but also kind of not a bridesmaid? So I just have to buy a dress I wouldn't normally own, "of my choosing," because that's what you want me to wear. But I'm not your bridesmaid. God no. Get yourself a pretty blue bracelet and call it good.

Nothing says I love you more than having your friends buy a new dress in a color of your choosing, not having them be in the bridal party, and using them as photo ops. Friends are not photo ops.

The worst part of being a BM is buying the dress. I have 7 of them in my closet. Either I'm in or out. But don't dictate what I'm wearing and I don't get to stand up with you .

If they are guests, they shouldn't have a dress code. Your friends are guests. They are not photo props. And if you're sure they'll love it, why waste your time and ours posting about it? It doesn't sound cool. It sounds weird.

I think the "something blue" is supposed to be on your person in some way, shape or form

I always interpreted something blue as being something on your person when you walk down the aisle.

Milania, I am also thinking about doing this as well. We are getting married 4/30/17 at the beach. A small destination wedding with our closet friends and family. I have a very close group of high school friends, and also a group of college friends. I do not want to choose anyone to be a bridesmaid because I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. If I had all the girls as bridesmaids it would add up to about 9, and with the small destination wedding we are wanting, that is a lot. So I thought about asking them all formally to be my something blue as well. Writing a poem or note explaining how much they mean to me and then explaining the something blue to them. I would like for them to wear blue dresses also. I don't see what the big deal is having them wear a blue dress. They can find any style, price, whatever they like. This will also make them feel less obligated to have to travel to the wedding because it is destination and on a Sunday. Have you asked your girls yet? How did it go? There were some pretty hateful comments about this idea, but I think it is cute and creative.

You just read 2 pages of why this is a really bad and disrespectful idea and you can't figure out why there is a problem? There were no hateful comments, just blunt truth. But really, go ahead and ask your friends to be props for your pictures because that is what this is REALLY about.

I have been part of a wedding that did this and loved it. My cousin was the bride and only had 4 bridesmaids- one being in "spirit". She then asked 13 friends to be her something blue. When she asked us girls she sent a note that our only job was to be there to walk down the aisle two by two and sit in the front row on her big day. We could choose any blue dress whether solid, patterned, short, or long and she really urged people to choose something they already owned. I was a something blue girl and was honored to be asked to be a special part of the day and get to support her. The bride is just a sweet girl with many, many friends and as she said in her poem she didn't want to have to "choose" people to be included and that it was her day so she didn't have to. This was her genuine gesture of letting those girls know they play a special part in her life while keeping it simple for them. As a bonus the pictures were amazing as a group and we each got an individual picture with her! I will be doing the same for my wedding. I have a few out of state friends that this will make easy to include them without the pressure of trying to find bm dresses on top of traveling for rehearsal, feeling obligated to bm duties, ect.

Also, I agree with Laken about hateful comments- some of you came off really rude. To those that commented bridesmaids have no other duties than to show up that couldn't be further from the truth. Every wedding I have been in we played a huge part of planning and support through the whole process. I am planning a small wedding party that I can lean hard on for planning and using my something blue for my really close friends that it would be difficult for them to be as available due to logistics and/or growing families, however I want them to be recognized as an important part of my life- friends with all for 15+ years and still extremely close.

There are alot of brides using blue crews. I never heard of it until the fb brides group mentioned it to me. I think its a really cool idea. The way I explained it was the ladies who I would have had as bridesmaids get to wear something blue and be there to help me get ready for my big day without the headache of being a bridesmaid. My fh doesn't have any groomsmen so we didn't want it ro be one sided. Everyone loved the idea and are really.excited to be apart.

Just want to put this out there as these comments all seem to pretty dated. This is a total vibe / trend right now 🤩 would love to know what you ended up decided on