So my MOH (best friend) is starting to plan my Bachelorette weekend (end of August. Friday evening-Sunday morning) with my other bridesmaids. It’s about a 2 hour drive for all the girls invited.
There’s 10 girls invited, 4 of whom are in my bridal party. 6 (including MOH) are from college & are very good friends with each other. One of the college girls (we’ll call her Janet) is a young mom, & I received a text from my MOH saying Janet asked if she can bring her baby, who will be 1 yr & 3 months at that time. MOH said she told Janet it was probably fine but would check with me.
I was instantly uncomfortable because it does not sound like a good situation. While we aren’t going to any clubs or anything, we do plan the spend time at the beach, go out for a nice dinner, maybe a bar or two, & play the typical cheesy Bachelorette games. So not super crazy but we will be drinking & it’s a reasonably loud group of girls lol. While I’m sure Janet would do her very best not to impose on anything, I know it would pull her away from the group (understandably) & I could also see other girls pulling away so Janet isn’t alone, when to me, the whole point of the weekend is to have girl time all together!
I instantly texted my FSIL/BM & asked her opinion because 1) it’s going to be at her cottage & 2) she’s a mom & more knowledgeable about all this than I am. She agreed that it was not a good environment for a baby (& there’s no good spot for baby to sleep) but suggested I ask Janet if she is able to have her parents watch the baby for just Saturday so she can potentially come up & join us at least for the day.
I let my MOH know it just wasn’t a good environment for the baby but couldn’t fully tell by her text response how she felt about my answer (she may have just been busy or nervous about saying no to Janet) but she said it made sense.
Janet is super sweet & chill so I’m not worried about her being mad, but I hate disappointing people and don’t want to seem rude. FSIL said I’m not rude but it was weird of Janet to ask.
I feel like I should also reach out to Janet to make sure everything is all good / ask her directly if there’s a way to coordinate her being there maybe just Saturday so she’s not away from baby too long but I’m way overthinking what I should/shouldn’t say. Any advice would be appreciated!
