My sisters are planning my bachelorette party, but I gave them general guidelines. Ultimately we came up with a pretty typical bachelorette weekend, which is great for me! In town, weekend of activities, plus a hotel for a night. My sisters are doing an amazing job planning everything, and keeping me generally surprised. My sisters sent out a general budget to my friends of the cost(which I think is amazing, and much better then keeping everyone in the dark.) Basically at most it will be about $300 for the weekend. This includes all activities and food and drinks and hotel. But if my friends budget they can easily do the weekend for about $100 by bringing there own food, and drinks. I get everyone is on a budget, but a couple have come to me (even though they know im not planning it) and passive aggressively complain about the price. And side eyeing each other in front of me. Some of them have even brought up suggestions of other things I can do instead. Am I wrong for thinking that "This is MY party, and you DONT have a say in it?" And "When you get married you can plan your party differently?" I havent said any of this out loud, but just explained to them, "that they dont NEED to spend that amount, but my sisters are trying to be nice by giving you a heads up of the cost." I will say im losing patience with them, and I feel like I might blurt out the really rude stuff if they keep this up. They have been doing this with the whole wedding as well.
Also, its not like we are planning anything super out of the ordinary. Were not going to Vegas for a week or anything.( Side note: I am going to Vegas with a different group friends from out of town doing an unofficial bachelor/bachelorette party, and they were all upset they couldnt go! Even though they definitely cant afford it)
Anyway, I just feel like I cant win. I feel super defeated about this whole thing. They seem to want me to do everything, and they give nothing. I feel like this is a pretty reasonably priced party right? I also feel like its inappropriate for them to put in suggestions for my party, or make me feel bad cause they cant afford it. But, I dont want them to be upset with me either.
If any of you have had similar experiences, or have advice on how to handle I would REALLY appreciate it.
