Friends not Friends anymore

Unfortunately it's really rude to uninvite someone after sending a save-the-date. I would just wait and see if she RSVPs; if she doesn't feel that close to you either, then she might decline.

Sorry in advance if this comes off really cold, but:

It's generally considered very rude to not send an invite after sending a save the date.

If you have no interest in continuing the friendship then don't send an invite, but if you'd like to try and mend things then you still should.

I'd reach out however you normally do or ask to meet up. At that point you bring up what's been bothering you and either you hash it out and move on, or it kills your guys relationship and you also move on, just minus the friend.

Up to you to decide if you want to put the time and effort into the friendship.

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Thank you for your honesty and advice! I appreciate it

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Not cold at all. I appreciate your honesty. Thank you!

I would just invite her. because honestly from now until your wedding there's still some time left to repair that relationship and become closer

Personally, it just depends on the relationship. If you want to save it, send the invite. If you want to cut ties, I would not send the invite and cut ties via letter, personally.

It’s considered rude but it sounds like you want to end the friendship anyway.
It’s always complicated when deciding to end friendships, and I am assuming that the decision is made in good faith, so this may be perfect timing.

Do some soul searching and figure out if you want to try and salvage this relationship. There's still time before your wedding for things to change, but it sort of sounds like you already have one foot out the door. If you sent a STD, send an invite. It's rude to not send an invite if you send a STD. She may not even RSVP anyway. You mentioned how some things have come to light that you aren't comfortable with. Was this information from her or someone else? I'd highly recommend you discuss this woman-to-woman. I'd feel much better if I discussed why I felt uncomfortable so that if things didn't work out or it wasn't true information I wouldn't wonder down the road if I could've done something different to save the relationship.

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This is spot on.

It is rude not to send an invite after having sent a STD, and it might end the friendship, but it sounds like the friendship is on its way out anyway, so maybe that doesn't bother you.

If you have friends in common, I would consider how not sending an invite could impact those relationships or create possible tension or drama. It could put mutual friends in a tricky spot. I also thing sitting down with your friend to discuss what is up is probably the more mature thing to do, but if you don't feel like the friendship is worth salvaging, maybe you just move on.