Friends that get engaged soon after you

Omg jessy your so right! a friend of mine started complaining to her boyfriend that he should propose to her already when she found out my fh and i were engaged, and started showing him rings she liked and everything. so he pretty much got forced into proposing, with a $2000 ring that he couldnt afford, and now hes gone away for a year anyway! she was upset just cuz theyre like 2 years older than us, but alot of my friends have been stressed cuz theyre a tiny bit older and not married yet! theyre all under 30 i dont get the big deal!!!

WEDDINGS ARE CONTAGIOUS!

My best friend got engaged on Christmas and so did FH's sister. But they were both bound to get engaged bc my BFF and her FH has a baby and FH's sister and her FH are pregnant now. And I am realyl excited about both the weddings. My BFF doesnt want to get married til 2011 and I am trying to talk her into doing it sooner. We have so much fun when talking about weddings. And FH's sister doesnt want a wedding, she wants to go to the courthouse. I am trying to talk her out of this too. lol But we are all extremly happy and excited. No jealousy here!!!!

Wow look at how many brides are having the same experence! Lots of great comments but the truth of the matter is its your big day and no one can take that away from you no matter how annoying it can be!

So not funny...LOL...my mom recently got engaged...it hasn't been made official b/c she hasn't gotten a ring yet but i feel this next year should be all about me...sounds and seems selfish but i think i kind of deserve it...i don't think she is going to do anything big but still...ugh...(laughing)

My MOH and another close friend were married a couple months before we got engaged and they mentioned the same thing to me..."watch...engagements will start coming out the woodwork" lol I think it's just a perspective thing honestly...like when u get a new car and all of a sudden YOUR car is EVERYWHERE You just don't notice till it's something reflected in your own life.

I have 2 sisters that have gotten "engaged" *cough* and I would be thrilled for them IF I thought either of their relationships were even CLOSE to being considered healthy, however..regardless of my personal feelings about their relationships/FHs, I do try to be supportive when they talk about their weddings to me.

I agree with Raven. Ever since we found out we were pregnant, we see pregnant women EVERYWHERE! And once we found out it was a boy I see the cutest little boys everywhere, lol! It's also a lot to do with your perspective and what is on your wavelengths at the time.

Devine2Be I totally agree with you. When we got engaged several of my friends became very angry with their boyfriends because they had not proposed yet. And some people even seemed a little mad at me because of it. But in the end they got what they wanted and got their rings shortly after I did. Now everyone can be happy.

Dude, as soon as we started seriously discussing weddings, my FH's sister called and asked him whether I'd be mad if she got married before me (her second wedding w/ a guy she'd only been seeing for 3 months). It went nowhere, but yeah: people get the bug...

I haven't seen the jealous part, but, there were a few couples (our friends) that got engaged after us..lol..I think the BF's get feel the pressure after so many friends and family get engaged.

I was engaged on 12/25/08 and my bf was "engaged" less than a month later. She and her boyfriend have always had a rocky relationship but they were in an argument and he just threw the ring box at her! Now whenenver I mention colors, themes, food, budget, dresses - she always thinks I am talking about HER or making suggestions for HER wedding even though they haven't even set a date yet and she rarely wears her ring... whats up w/ that?? lol And she constantly brags on her ring. Sometimes I wish I hadn't told her so soon

Wow tomsluv what kind of way is that for a guy to ask his girlfriend to be his wife. It doesnt sound healthy and Im sure your going to see a crazy amount of drama lol.... and bonnietomyclide and raven thats crazy your moms are getting married around you,I dont know how I would react to that since moms are the ones to go crazy about their daughters weddings. Good luck with it though you never know maybe it wont be so bad

And to all the brides your right it like a cold it spreads like wild fire! Im thinking the couple I know is going to get married before us the bride was so jelious when we announced it saying that she cant believe we are getting married and the 2 of them arent married yet!! Mind you they have been together 2 years and alec and I have been together for 8 YEARS!!! LoL it should be interesting to say the least

Right after i told everyone i was engaged, my brother says he is marrying his girlfriend. ugh. i was so upset cause he is the family favorite and im not speaking too much to the family lately due to their issues with my fiance (all bullS***) so i got upset that my moment was ruined and everyone will most likely go to his wedding this year but not mine. idk. that was my first reaction, i panicked. my dad isnt even coming to my wedding so that made it hurt more knowing he would be at my brothers...im ok with it now i guess. my mom just got engaged christmas eve so im happy for her. i get along with my mom just fine, shes my best friend.

Wow... I am always amazed at how incredibly egocentric we are! I fail to see how getting married entitles anyone to a year in the spotlight... or automatically means that anyone else at that point in their life is jealous... or trying to upstage them. Life moves on for the rest of humanity, it doesn't stop or revolve around one person just because we get engaged.

Jessy D - it does not entitle us to a "spotlight" on us for a year, i never expected anything like that, however...getting married is one of the most important times in our lives and it should be recognized as such. just like when a woman is pregnant for 9 months, they are in the spotlight for bringing another life into this world ; another very important time in ones life. people should be excited and supportive and wanting to help out because they are happy for you. i think its very sweet and thoughtful of friends and family and i appreciate all of them and what they offer to us whether its help with the wedding or simply wishing us the best.

Sarah, I wasn't necessarily aiming my commentary at you. There are several people who have made comments referring to their thunder being stolen. Yes, I agree that being engaged is a special time in a couple's lives... and yes, it should be recognized and people should be excited and supportive. I didn't mean to infer that they shouldn't be.

Its the attitude of entitlement and the assumption that other people must be copying or jealous that some brides take (both in this thread and in others) that bugs me. I'm referring to the more obvious posts "its all about me" and the more subtle ones (folks assuming someone is bragging, jealous, or mad... or folks who make a big deal about who was engaged first and how long someone has been together). Even the brides who seem to forget that the groom should be involved fall under this same umbrella to me.

I see what youre saying. for me, it wasnt necessarily someone taking my spotlight...it was more family issues and me being worried that my day wouldnt be as special as my brothers because he is the favorite and can do no wrong. but my family hates my fiance and it has ruined my relationship with them. so mine was just me being sad, especially cause i know my dad will not attend mine but is going to my brothers. im his only daughter. it just hurts. i also know my brother got 'engaged' just cause i did. thats how he is. there was no proposal and no ring, he just deccided "hey we should get married too!"

There are exceptions to what I said, Sarah... sounds like you fall into that category. I hope that your family surprises you by being more supportive than you expect them to be. I'm a little uncertain myself about whether my mom is coming or not, so I understand the hurt you are feeling. Best of luck!

Thanks. best of luck to you too.

I agree with Jamie H. One of my friends got engaged after I did and I was thrilled, because all I want to talk about is my wedding. Every time I try talking to my MOH about it she quickly starts to change the subject, or pretends that she didn't hear a word I said. I think everyone else is tired of hearing about it. So it's really helpful that I have someone else to share my enthusiam with.