Friend's Wedding on my 1 Year Anniversary

Also to give more information...her wedding will be in Colorado in the mountains and it will start at 11 am and go until 7 pm. I'm from Colorado originally so it's not really a destination I've never been to but it would definitely be about 3 hours from where my parents live so we'd have to get a hotel and such to go to the wedding. So we could still kind of make it like a 1 year anniversary trip with pretty mountains that just happens to have a wedding on our exact anniversary. Or we could do what we originally wanted to do and go stay at the Disney hotel, Aulani here on Oahu (much less distance to travel).

Obviously this is still planning way ahead, but I just wanted to know what you guys would think of someone planning their wedding on your 1-year and if you'd go to it.

I would celebrate our aniversary instead of go to someones wedding.

I guess it really depends on how close you are with this friend. She isn't a BM so I would say that she isn't necessarily that close, but still a good friend. I would discuss it with FH. You have an anniversary vacation planned already (props to you! My wedding is 7 weeks and I haven't thought about the week after our HM!), but this could also be a beautiful anniversary vacation. I wouldn't mind a wedding on my anniversary, think about it! A night out for free? Dinner and dancing? Sounds fun! And the mountains are beautiful. So you just need to decide where you'd rather go.

I would treat it like any other wedding. If I already had plans, I wouldn't go. And I would definitely be more inclined to celebrate my anniversary.

I'll also add this: 1) 7-11 is a very popular date, as is any number cliche (11-11, 1-23, 4-11 (mine was a coincidence I swear), 3-14....). 2) it is kind of interesting that she's getting married on a Monday. Maybe it'll be a small wedding? But you're saying it's like an entire day... Idk. Maybe she'll get tired of that date and pick something that better suits her wedding, like a weekend! It's a long way out!

I find it very odd she is getting married on a Monday but I know a lot of venues off amazing discounts on weekday weddings.

I personally would attend the wedding. I would book a room, what's more romantic than an evening in the mountains?

That is a little strange. But if my anniversary was on a Monday I'd probably be celebrating the weekend before anyway.

Its a little weird, but it wouldnt bother me.

And I would still go.

You guys can always spend the weekend before in Colorado for your anniversary, its not like you can't celebrate at all.

Side note 7/11 is my birthday, so it is a great date!

Thanks for the advice so far! @SpringBride, we also thought about the fact that it'd basically be a free meal and entertainment for us too, and we wouldn't mind having a free glass of champagne to toast our own anniversary privately (or maybe I'll just grab the mic and say something about us...hahaha jk jk that would be so horrible)!

I thought maybe she liked the numbers too. When I talked to her about it she said, "Well we thought July would be a nice month, and we like the idea of a Monday because it's different and doesn't cost as much. But we didn't want the 4th of July, so we are going to go with the 11th." She has her reception venue listed on her website, so it sounds pretty set. I was hoping she'd decide to change it but not sure it'll happen.

Getting married on a Monday is a bit odd, is there a coincidence that that date is also significant to your friends relationship?

Go if you want. It's not really that weird.

The only reason I find it strange is that it's a Monday. Why not do the 10th, so it's a Sunday. The day of the week is odd. IF you want to go, then go. You could spend the weekend or something and have it be a little anniversary get away. You can still spend time together in a little get away and be able to attend the wedding. Hey, if she copies you this far, maybe it'll be all the same details and you can relive your wedding hahahahahaha

I got married on a Monday, for several different reasons. If she is a good friend, and it fits in your budget then go. They say imitation is the highest form of flattery. I don't think it's a big deal.

Ha! Y'all should go Kanye on her reception. Interrupt the toasts with: "I'mma let y'all finish, I just wanted to say out 7-11 wedding was the best 7-11 wedding of ALL TIME!" jk. Funny thought though. Really, I don't think id have an issue with it though. It'll be a beautiful setting for an anniversary

At 1st I wouldn't think much of her taking your wedding date a year later. I would tend to think a Monday wedding not on a holiday was a bit odd. I know it is more and more popular to have a weekday/night wedding to save on costs, but usually they are on a Thursday or Friday!

I think you have to assess just how close you are to her/how good of a friend she really is. If she is high up there, you should go and make a fun time out of it, perhaps slip away early from the wedding, it seems like it will be getting over rather early anyway, and spend some quality time with your husband to celebrate your 1st year anniversary. Unless, you are totally against doing anything on your 1st year, consider going if she is a good friend. Imitation is flattery. Leave it at that.

That is a bit odd, especially if she has a history of being a copy cat, lol. But like others have said, you could easily have plans that day and not be able to attend.

Would it be weird to tell her I have plans even though we know about her wedding this far in advance? It seems like she would be bummed that I would plan something knowing about her date over a year and a half out. I did think maybe if we decide not to go I can use the cost as an excuse. It would be a couple nights in a hotel plus a round trip ticket between hawaii and colorado which isn't cheap. We will probably already be flying in June to California for FH'S sister's graduation. Now that I think about that...I think that solves it...it would be crazy to pay for both trips.

Is she going to your wedding? Oops -saw she's in yours. I would go to hers.

Our wedding happens to be on my aunt & uncles wedding anniversary (I had NO idea when we picked the date haha) and this year on our wedding it will be their 40th. At first I was worried about it being the same day but they are thrilled to get to be a part of our special day on their special day. They're coming 1500 miles for it. However in your case, I do find it kind of weird but mainly because it's a Monday.. Who does a Monday wedding? If I wasn't close with the person I doubt I would go to a Monday wedding.

I'm really not big on anniversaries so I don't find it strange at all. If you are close to her, go to her wedding, if you're not, don't. It's that simple.