Friend's Wedding on my 1 Year Anniversary

I am not big on anniversaries and celebrating holidays and such, and I wouldn't go to that wedding. Lol. Sorry, but a Monday wedding? That is just REALLY odd. I agree that it sounds questionable. Go do your own thing, not her wedding. Monday weddings just make zero sense at all.

Why don't you want to go? If she's close enough to be apart of your big day I find it odd that you're searching for reasons not to attend hers. As far as anniversaries don't most people celebrate on the weekend or the evening?

I wouldn't NOT go just because it was our anniversary. Does she have a work schedule that makes a Monday easier for her?

I say, if you want to go, turn it into a fun getaway with your husband and attend a fun wedding. If you don't want to go, say its just too expensive and do your other thing.

I don't think it would be weird at all, if it was on a Friday-Sunday. I wouldn't go, not because it's my one year, but because I wouldn't go to a Monday wedding.

This would be a little too "Single White Female" for me. . . .I'm sorry, but there are more than two Monday options for a July wedding. . . it just sounds creepy.

Been there done that-didn't get a t-shirt.

My sister had a destination wedding (in the US). It was on my 1 year wedding anniversary. Biggest fight my ex-husband and I ever had. I was in the wedding as her MOH. I was not happy about it.

In her defense, it was the only date available and that was only due to a cancellation spot. We both got married on the first day of summer-June 21st.

I don't think it's that strange that she planned it on your 1 year, it is probably for multiple reasons. I think it's strange to have a wedding on a Monday. I think it would be terribly selfish to not go because it's your anniversary.

Ahhhhh that's pretty weird. Totally random date and she chose that one? Come on. It's weird. But I've always been in the camp of imitation is the highest form of flattery, so just take it as another sign of your friend's unflagging admiration for the choices you make.

That being said, you shouldn't feel totally obligated to go. A ticket to CO from Hawaii is pricey, and you and your DH would have every right to want to celebrate it in your own way. She has to know that picking her wedding date on your one year anniversary could have that result. Only go if you really want to.

It's definitely not selfish if you don't go because of your anniversary. I hate copy cats and it would annoy me that she picked the same date. Who gets married on a Monday during the day? I'm sure there were so many other dates available. I wouldn't not go bc of my anniversary but I would not go if I had already planned a trip.

I'll be officiating a friend's wedding on our 28th anniversary this Fall.

I've officiated quite a few other weddings previous years on our anniversary.

It's still OUR special day -- and we get to share it with other people in love!

I would go and make an anniversary trip out of it. Since it's during the day, you can leave at like 5, freshen up, and go on a romantic anniversary date. Yes, a Monday wedding is different, but like so many people on WW have said, either go with pleasure or decline and let that be the end of it. What's the saying? Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery?

I guess it depends on how close you guys are. If one of my really good friends were getting married on our anniversary I would just make a point to celebrate early and attend because it's the right thing to do. If we weren't that close, I wouldn't go.

I do think it's weird that she'd schedule for a Monday. Has she been like this before? Tried to copy you? Just curious.

Personally, I don't find it weird at all that she planned a wedding on your first anniversary. I get that the history between you two and the fact that it's on a Monday makes it seem a little suspicious, but I usually tend to try to give people the benefit of the doubt until there's any hard evidence of an ulterior motive.

Like some other posters said, go if you want to go, don't if you don't. I wouldn't not go to a wedding just because it was held on my anniversary. But I wouldn't attend a wedding if it involved lots of travel and it was on a Monday, unless it was for a very close friend/family member. So I guess I wouldn't make it about being on your first anniversary at all--just do what you do if it were held any other Monday.

I think it's your personal choice but if it was me I'd be annoyed that my 1st wedding anniversary was hijacked from me. The 2nd and so on is fine I guess but not the first. Plus I can't imagine any close friends picking the same date as me. IDK, a lot of commenters seem cool about it but I don't think I would be as cool about it. I think it's kinda weird and based on your description seems very "single white female"

That a little strange, especially because it falls on a Monday. If we were good friends I would attend.

The way people feel like some date has these magical properties and you can only celebrate something on that specific date, and if it doesn't happen then, it might as well not happen at all.

I also find it very selfish to say 'Well, it's our anniversary." My response would be "So what?".

Travel is a legitimate reason. An arbitrary date you picked out years ago and now has to be repeated every year and looked upon almost sanctimoniously? No.

Just celebrate another day.

I honestly wouldn't think it's that weird. My sisters best friend is getting married on her 1st anniversary weekend. A lot of the times weekends are hard to come by. My FH and me are getting married on his mom and dads 35th wedding anniversary. Of course we asked them if they were ok with that........but we love the fact we get to share that day! Go..... enjoy the trip, spend time with each other and see your family! It's a great excuse to get away!

I like your idea of making it an anniversary trip! You two could have special alone time before and after the wedding.

My FH and I love taking trips for special occasions! It feels more special than the standard date night.

She's in your wedding? You should definitely go to hers if you can- don't not go just because it's your anniversary. You will have many more! If she's a close enough friends to be in yours, do her the courtesy of attending.

If someone told me they couldn't come to my wedding because it was their one year anniversary I would think it was a little weird if it were someone I was close with. I'd look at it as a vacation for the anniversary go out to a nice dinner that Saturday or Sunday night and then go to the wedding on Monday. I also love an excuse to go on vacation though.