Frustrated and Overwhelmed

Me too! I try to remind myseld of everything We have done so far. I also am only focused on 'big ticket items' right now. Anytime I start to panick about a detail I remind myself that I can't worry about that until X is done. Compartmentalizations help with my anxiety in general. Try to apply your pre-wedding techniques to the current situation.

Girl...yes!!!! Wedding planning is a huge headache but I think it’s normal lol

I wanted to elope since we got engaged. My FH wanted the wedding- luckily he let me get the venue I wanted and they take care of almost everything. Still- I wish we eloped and the day was just about us and not trying to figure out how to make 115 people happy.

Every. Single. Day.
Not really I don’t plan everyday, really only like once a week for a max of 2 hrs, if that.

View Quoted Comment This. Ditto! Exactly

That's when you need to step away from the plannin. Recharge. Do a date night and regroup, you will feel better!

I got there for the first time last weekend - everything just felt like it wasn’t about two people in love getting married & like it was more about flowers, hair/makeup, etc. I got over this the second FH got home from his bachelor party & reminded me that it is about two people in love, but there are details to work out.

I did for a few days. My FMIL was trying to convince us to spend $1500 on a coordinator, and it involved a lot of telling us that we couldn't do it ourselves. Those few days I sort of lost my crap, but I found that dedicating one session of wedding planning just to making lists has REALLY helped me. I made a list, then I googled things like "stuff you will forget your wedding day" and added to that list. At the end I had a list of like 90 things (yeek!) but some big (book officiant) and some small (make tip envelopes and designate someone to hand them out). Then I look at the list and give myself and my fiance a few tasks, and then stop looking at it. We both focus on our few tasks, and once they are done, we go back and get more. It helps stop that feeling of "oh, i need to do this! and this! oh i forgot about that!" and has totally taken the stress out of it.

More than once! Just like the others said, take a break for a few days! Do something productive, fun or relaxing, whatever your thing is. I just ended up decorating an empty wall in our house. It was exactly the break I needed.

Nope. I can't imagine not having a wedding with the people we love and who have supported us through everything. I would always regret it.

I think it’s normally to feel that way, it’s not always easy, but just remember to give yourself breaks. I been feeling like that and later I’m like I can do this. It goes back and forth.

Right here. Between my bride dragging her feet on getting a cake flavor nailed down, bride/bridesmaids dresses decided, and decor to use, I am about ready to call it off for another year. I'm just tired of trying to roll the stone up a hill.

Yes. I wanted to elope originally, but lost that debate. I'm not even stressed over planning or money that much, I just really hate small talk and the role you have to play as bride. I don't want to be showcased around all day.

There was a point where I did but then imagine regretting not having our big wedding and said take it day by day. Use the checklist as a guide but don't freak out if you haven't made a decision on a vendor or are behind. Everything will fall into place. Also make some time for the two of you without any wedding talk. 🤗

View Quoted Comment I agree, sometimes you gotta step away.

Every.single.day 🙅🏼‍♀️🙋🏼‍♀️

Planning can be very overwhelming. I planned my entire wedding without a professional planner so I feel your stress.

My best advice is keep yourself organized. Write down the vendors you like and compare them in a spread sheet. Keep everything from your budget to your expenses in a spreadsheet as well. The Wedding Wire checklist was a great template to use in the beginning for me. I started with it and eliminated the tasks I knew I wasn't going to need.
Just remember it's your wedding and d ont let vendors push you into hiring them or thinking you want something you don't. That's the pain in the butt part. Wedding planning is a business to them and it can get stressful and pushy. Stay grounded and you'll be just fine!

Yep yep and yep! everything for me was great until after i sent out std’s and my fmil realized we didn’t invite some of her family- we asked if there were any “had to” invites & she said no so i was irked & said too late basically. as far as costs- think outside the box. i’m getting married on a thursday- at a vineyard, saved thousands of dollars by picking thursday on just the venue alone. try not to go the traditional bridal route & do things a bit off & you can save a lot.

View Quoted Comment Oh I'm sorry, but pinterest will be your bestfriend when it comes to crafy things!

Hi! Been there done all of that to the point where I changed the date. But you know now that I am a professional photographer for wedding I realized that the DJ work flow sheet is your wedding planner and you list to check off all of your venders as you book them. Take your time in searching every vendor, Just pick 3 and then narrow it down. Do week by week on each subject and if you see that the venue is to expensive talk to the owner negotiate or go to other near by new venues or ask venders if they know of any venues they might prefer because I am sure they have work in lots of them. Day of coordinator is awesome to have because they take all that stress away. There is so many wedding coordinators that would like to gain some experience. If still you honestly still feel overwhelm contact a pro, I'm always available to help a bride because I've been on those shoes. ******************@*****.***