Frustrated with all my bridesmaid!

Why did you pick women who you aren’t close with (other than best friend) to be in your BP. Your BP sounds like They should have been your FHs BP. I low key would start all over and pick people who care about me. But I understand not wanting to start drama and having tension between you and future sisters and FH friend. But, there’s also nothing wrong with calling out grown women on their behavior and standing up for yourself. This is YOUR day you only get to do it once (hopefully) and you should not have to look back and think of how miserable you were with these women. maybe don’t have any bridesmaids?

Now, about your friend. Unfortunately she is going through a hard time and I can see hoe she would say something like that, but there’s never an excuse to treat your BF like crap and not be there for comfort and support.

Im sorry you’re going through this and best of luck to you!

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Thank you! sadly I don't have many friends, just the one currently in my party and another who will be the photography so I didn't want her to have the responsibility of both things. and my FH and his mother insist his sisters and close friend be apart of it I really didn't want them in my party because of how disconnected we are. For my friend I feel like my problem wasn't even about my wedding, it was simply frustration because of how wrong and disrespectful these women were

Your more than a year from your wedding. Hmm... how would you feel about no wedding party? We didn’t have one. No extra cost, stress or drama for anyone. 😊

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#1 FH's female "friend" should not be in your wedding party, and the fact she's talking trash about you to your FH and he isn't shutting her down is disgusting to me if any of my friends male or female said 1 bad word about my FH I would never speak to them again and I know FH would do the same.

With the sister's drama I would just stay out of it and let them work it out if they say anything like I won't be in the party because she is just say that the wedding is a year away and you're going to let them work it out between themselves.

As for your friend yes it's sad she wasn't there for you but I would just let it go talk to your mom or something about the drama for now.

Lastly stop planning wedding stuff with other people it should be between you and FH when it's time to get the bridal parties dresses start a group chat 6 months before the wedding ask for budget and suggestions but ultimately you decide what they wear but no need to discuss any of this now my bridesmaids bought their dresses in Feb for my May wedding so you have tons of time. And your new bridal party is just FH's 2 sisters and your friend this female friend should not be in your party and if he wants to involve her so bad she can stand on his side.

As others have said, I would talk to your fiancé. His sisters and friend should not be treating you this way. You should not feel obligated to have them in your bridal party. There is nothing wrong with you having on BM and you FH having a few groomsmen in his grooms party.

Or or as others have suggested, just skipping the wedding party entirely.

I agree with other's about FH's friend. Personally I wouldn't be okay with another woman texting him about me and talking down about me. Idk their friendship, but I wouldn't tolerate this.

Unfortunately with his family stuff...sometimes you do need to just step back and try and stay out of it. However, you should not need to make concessions for his sister to be in the bridal party, that's ridiculous and she can suck it up (sorry to be blunt but come on, she has conditions?? that's ridiculous).

Unfortunately your friend didn't handle the situation correctly. I'm sorry she wasn't there for you when you needed her. She is probably dealing with some jealousy issues with you getting married and her coming off a breakup...It's not an excuse to treat you that way, but i'm hoping its a misstep and she doesn't act like that again.

Good luck to you

I'm sorry, but whose wedding is this? FMILs? No, I don't think so. She doesn't get to "insist" or suggest or pressure you into having certain people in your bridal party. You and FH get to decide that, all on your own.

And I don't care how good this "friend" of FHs is. The minute she started talking crap about you and your ideas for your wedding, she'd be OUT. I would not tolerate that sort of behavior, and FH shouldn't tolerate it either. Did he back you up at all? I think you should speak to him about this, and convince him that he needs to be on the same page with you.

Your bridal party should be the women in your life who are closest to you. If that means you only have one attendant (or none at all), then that's perfectly fine. Better to have only one attendant that is a real friend, than to have several that are all fake.