Just a quick ranting post,
My FH and I are getting married in about 10 days (that's the yay part!) but have STILL not heard from two friends of ours from college and we're both upset and honestly kind of offended.
These are two friends that my FH met while in undergrad, he even lived with one of them as a roommate for two years! These two friends are actually dating now, and newly engaged, and it was my fh's influence that got them together in the first place. And I don't say that to sound like they owe us their eternal gratitude or anything, but to emphasize that their relationship with my FH has had a major impact on their lives.
Back to the frustrating part: we sent out invites in late July with an rsvp date at the end of August. The week before, we messaged people a reminder and they replied an apology, that they were in the process of moving and hadn't had a chance to reply. Totally understandable. However, two weeks later (now past the rsvp by date), and nothing. I message them, and they left it on "read" so I know they saw it but didn't respond. I even included the wedding website link in case they lost the info. Two MORE weeks later and it's the due date for our seating chart and head count. We softly include them in it because this whole time we've been assuming they would be coming, why wouldnt they right?
Then two more weeks, it's after October 1, the wedding is coming up quick. Still have never received any sort of communication from either of these friends. We included them in the seating chart and head count, and they haven't even had the decency to reply in any way to any of our messages. To remove them from the seating chart at this point means rearranging a bunch of tables, and we still have to pay for their plates.
I have a slow burning fury over this situation, and I just wanted to post and see if anyone else had similar problems (I'm sure those stories are out there!)
I mean, if they can't go that's fine. Weddings are expensive! It's a lot of travel, they live in another state and not everyone can make that commitment, that's completely reasonable! But at least tell us. At least reply to the messages!
I also came to find out that these two pulled the same stunt at another friend's wedding a couple of years ago, never really giving a solid reply of yes or no and leaving the couple confused on their head count.
Can't help feeling like there's secret drama we don't know about. Did we offend them? Do they secretly hate us? Or do they just suck? At this point, I'm willing to drop them as friends. It took a lot of convincing from my FH (ever the reasonable one) to not send a petty message that they were marked down as a "no" after the third time being left on "read."
Come on and share your ridiculous rsvp stories! I'm curious at how other people handle it!
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