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Super October 2019

Frustrations!

Cassi, on October 4, 2019 at 5:35 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 14

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8 days out was calling all the guys to confirm tux rentals and what not... best man says he doesnt have the money for the tux because he was assuming we were covering it. Guys I'm so frustrated! It's a DW so we knew it was a lot asking people to travel. We paid for their lodging for 7 days!!! We figured paying lodging would be more helpful then getting their tuxes. We dont physically have the money to cover his tux -_- I'm just so annoyed!

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Latest activity by Lindsay, on October 5, 2019 at 10:20 AM

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Michaela · on October 4, 2019 at 5:37 PM
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Ohmygosh.. Why would he just assume that?! Wouldn't he ask at some point?
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Cassi · on October 4, 2019 at 5:41 PM
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Right!?!?!? All the guys got fitted at the same time. They all paid their deposits why would he assume from that point we were paying differences.
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Mrs. Bubba · on October 4, 2019 at 5:45 PM
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Okay, then he comes as a guest. Does he have a suit or at least Slacks that match what the other 🕺🏻s are wearing?
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Cassi · on October 4, 2019 at 5:52 PM
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Not sure. FH is trying to get him to figure it out.
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Melle · on October 4, 2019 at 6:27 PM
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Ugh people think so casually about weddings and it's annoying because we spend thousands of dollars -_-
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Cassi · on October 4, 2019 at 6:40 PM
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Like seriously. We asked everyone from the get go what they would prefer. We rented a 9 bedroom cabin for entire wedding party it added almost 6k on our budget but we are asking everyone to travel so decided we would turn it into a vacation for everyone.
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Kelly · on October 4, 2019 at 8:05 PM
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Ugh! So frustrating!
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Gabby · on October 5, 2019 at 2:41 AM
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I would tell him he can come as a guest if he can't get the tux.
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Debby · on October 5, 2019 at 2:53 AM
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You SO don’t need that stress before your big day!

Can another GM cover him maybe? Or a family member of his? Hard to believe there’s absolutely no one who could help him out, hopefully he’s not not looking for a solution and just trying to get it out of you. Like you’ve said, you guys have done enough, it shouldn’t be on you.

Good luck!!
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Lindsay · on October 5, 2019 at 4:32 AM
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I can't believe that he would assume that you are paying the difference when you're having a DW and flying there yourselves on top of everything else that you're paying for! He should have asked sooner so he could save or let you know he couldn't afford it.
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Cassi · on October 5, 2019 at 9:05 AM
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Yeah that has already been brought up. still frustrating though and honestly I feel super offended. Like I said FH and I decided long and hard on what we would cover for wedding party and we figured lodging was the best bet. the suit is $160 but if he had to pay for a hotel for the Friday, Saturday and Sunday he would have been paying around $600. we figured it was more helpful to cover that expense rather than the tuxes.
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Cassi · on October 5, 2019 at 9:06 AM
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I'm not sure. Fh is working with him to find a solution but already told him we couldn't swing it. I know most of our groomsmen are in a tight spot right now. One just had a baby back in February, one just graduated college and hasn't started his real job yet and one just moved to Colorado so hes strapped too so not sure. They are working on it today to try and figure it out. I guarantee his family could help but I don't think he wants to ask. I personally think hes being ridiculous. I'm not one to judge someone elses fiances because you never know whats going on in someone else life but he lives at home with his mom still and works a full time job. He doesn't have a car payment or anything like that so theres no reason he couldn't save that 160 especially since hes known about tuxes since April. I think personally he started dating this girl and has been trying to shower her with gifts and what not and hes paying for her to come to the wedding now too so he spent all his money there.
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Cassi · on October 5, 2019 at 9:16 AM
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This is what kills me because they all knew in April. I don't remember blatantly telling them they were paying but after speaking with other groomsmen they said we all talked about it and we told them we couldn't cover suits because we covered lodging. So he knew.
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Lindsay · on October 5, 2019 at 10:20 AM
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I'm sorry this has been frustrating for you. I hope your FH is able to help him figure it out especially since they have all known since April. Good luck!
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