fsil not part of bridal party but getting ready with us - should i pay for hair and makeup for her?

I feel like if everyone else is getting their hair and makeup done, you should at least ask her if she wants to have hers done as well. If she wrote prefer to do her own while she's there, that's okay, but if she wants to have it done professionally, you should pay for it.

I am paying for my nieces mom to have her make up done. She too will be there to guide my nieces as I won’t be able to be in auntie mode. But they are 9 and 7 so they aren’t too small. I think you should extend the offer but if your are feeling generous then just go ahead and invite her to her her makeup done.

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Just to qualify the above, her hair and makeup would cost us $270 hence the initial hesitation!

View Quoted Comment Sounds like you already made your decision then!

Oh man I do think it would be weird if she was there and didn’t get hers done but it sounds really expensive if you paid for hers.

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Exactly my dilemma! It's in AUD (around $185 USD) but it is still expensive enough that it's not clear cut to me if I should or not. I'm a big believer in paying for hair and makeup for the actual bridal party, but here I feel like it would be rude/awkward if I didn't pay for her hair and makeup if she gets ready with us!

You don't need to pay for her hair/make up. She knows that you will have a professional on site. I'm sure she is planning to be ready before showing up. However, if you want a better idea, in a fun,peppy convo voice ask her how she plans on doing her hair/make-up for the wedding (emphasis on 'doing'). If she asks about the stylists, give her the price list.

I'm paying for my SIL to get her hair and makeup done with us. She is the mother of my nieces who will be junior bridesmaid and flower girl. I thought it was a nice gesture and will make her feel like part of group.

Oh man that's tough! It would be great if you could offer it, but that's definitely an added expense!

How would you feel about covering one service? (either hair or makeup) That could be a nice offer!

I think offering to pay for it would be a really sweet gesture to your future sister in law.

I think you should offer to pay. I invited several friends who weren't bridesmaids to get ready with the bridal party. I offered to pay for whoever wanted professional hair/makeup since I had invited them to be there with us. only one of them took me up on the offer, but she actually ended up paying me back later which I thought was really sweet! since it's just your future SIL (one person) I think it would be very nice to offer.

I would offer it to her and say she's welcome to do it if she'll feel awkward being the only one not having it done professionally, but she has to reimburse you the cost. Then it's up to her, but if you don't require it you don't have to pay for it.

I think that if you have no doubts that you can afford to without adding additional stress, then do it! However, if you’re hesitant, I like what one PP said about offering to cover one or the other, or asking if she would want to have it done, but on her own dime. It shows you want to include her, but you are absolutely not obligated to do so especially at that expense!