fsil & Wedding Party

I feel you. I'm close with my FHs SIL and asked her to be in the weeding party. And FHs brother is best Man, but FH also has a sister that I barely know that I had to ask to be in the wedding party because it would've been frowned upon by my FMIL not to.


But it depends on how close his family is. I'd ask him for his thoughts, or even your FMIL if you guys have a good relationship. But I'd say to stay on the safe side, you should ask them

Pick whom you are closest to. Never ever pick anyone out of obligation because the tension will be very evident. It is ok and normal to not ask every sibling to stand in your side. They may prefer to be a guest without any responsibility beyond having fun.

However since they are his siblings, he should be the one to choose who stands on his side. Are you best friends with any of them? If so, then choose that one to stand with you if you wish but it’s not something that should ever be done out of obligation, regardless of relation.

It's not weird at all since you don't have to ask the future SILs you're not close with.

If you think it's important to make them bridesmaids no matter what: fine! Go for it! But nobody should pressure you , not even your fiancé or future MIL.

I am a traditional person, so including the future in laws is a MUST for me. They are now your family, and the only thing that is forever is family. But, it worked out for us because FH only has one sister and I only have one brother.

I went thru this. Explained to my now husband that I would like to include 2 of his 3 and he said that’s fine, I will back up any decision you make, it’s your choice. In the end I decided to just keep it my 2 best friends and my close cousin (I don't have siblings). No matter what, even though my husband has my back I did not want the friction because this particular sister is one that doesn’t let things go; she likes to stir and dig and I don’t agree with any of that energy nor do I want to be around it. Summing it up, you shouldn’t feel obligated, but it also could depend on the family dynamic. Good luck with your decision and congratulations 🎉