Our venue’s capacity is only 160, but we’re capping our invite list at 150 to account for DJ, photographer, etc. FH and I are allotted 75 invites each, which we have already capped out on. Most of it being family and then a few close friends. I’m not even able to invite extended family that I’m decently close with or other friends that I would love to be there.
FIL is a pastor and he is absolutely livid that we aren’t inviting his entire church (of 250), his old church (FH hasn’t been there since he was 2), and the church I grew up in. He thinks that we should just do a blanket invitation and not worry about RSVPs or seating charts. He thinks a seating chart is dumb, but I’m very adamant that I want to do it because I want to utilize every seat available. Out of my list, almost all of those 75 will come (I have a very large immediate family). He says that only about 50 church members will show up so it shouldn’t be an issue. But I’ve tried to explain that we have to count every single head when sending out invitations. We can’t send out 300 with hopes that only 150 will come. We have to be very intentional about this.
He wants us to switch venues to the church where the capacity is 250, but if we do that, I will also be inviting the extended family and friends I would like to be there because it’s not fair to switch to the church just so he can get his way by inviting the congregation without me inviting the rest of the people I want to.
Future in laws are contributing $2,500 which we are very appreciative of. But that will cover the photographer we want. So if they want to contribute more money to pay for us to upgrade venues and the food for all of those people, I’m all for it. But if not, then it just cannot logistically happen.
How do we handle this?
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