I am having a hard time dealing with my fiancé’s family. He and I have have been together 2.5 years and everything has been great with his family up until April of this year. My fiancé and his family are totally different than my family and I politically. This past April, his brother and sister-in-law lost a pregnancy. We were all really supportive and sent our prayers to them. A month later we were chatting in the family group chat about the pandemic and the topic of abortion came up via the brother. Everyone knows I’m personally pro-choice and they aren’t, which is fine with me, I’ve always loved them despite our differences. However, in this moment I didn’t feel it was appropriate to comment on so I said, “this isn’t a hill I’m willing to die on.” All hell broke loose after that and I was called everything under the sun for months, from racist to unchristian to immature, etc. My fiancé felt it was extremely hurtful and uncalled for and started backing away from his family. I was hysterical everyday and needless to say my family aren’t fans anymore. We eventually had an even bigger blow up but they apologized even though they still maintain they did nothing wrong. The sister-in-law says that I did nothing wrong, but knowing my views warranted them to treat me that way. We also found out that they have a separate group chat where they have been talking badly about me. We got engaged a month ago and I really want his nieces and nephews in the wedding, but I can’t handle their parents and grandparents. I have anxiety about being apart of a family that could treat me so horribly. Marriage is forever and I don’t know if I could do that forever. It really scares me that they will treat my children badly if they have different views than them too. I want a decent relationship with them and they try hard to be nice, but I think the damage is done and I don’t trust them. What should I do, because this is becoming and everyday worry to the point where I think about calling off the engagement?
Sorry this is so long and TIA 🙂
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