Future in-laws

Boundaries are very important. So is being on the same page as your future spouse. It’s hard to give specific advice with how vague the post is but the two things I mentioned are definitely necessary.

I am not fond of my husbands father at all & it doesn't bother me. At first it did because who doesn't want to have a good relationship with in laws? But now I could care less lol it doesn't come in between my husband and I, my husband 100% supports me. We can be cordial but I prefer not to "hang out" with my husbands father and he doesn't care at all. As long as you and your partner are on the same page you'll be fine.

View Quoted Comment My partner is understanding and know why I feel how I feel but wishes it were different! I do to but based on past things I can’t not feel how I feel. I get really uncomfortable when I know I have to be with him by myself! But I can definitely have respect and do better in regards to my partner and not get so upset! Thankyou for your insight!

View Quoted Comment You shouldn’t have to be with his dad by yourself if it makes you uncomfortable. This should be an easy boundary to set with FH to not allow this to happen.

I do not have a good relationship at all with my fiancés dad or his step mom over a very stupid argument that they started with me. I honestly ignore them completely as they do me and it does not bother me at all. I just tell my fiance when it comes to us having kids don't expect him to be part of their life. My fiancé agrees with me completely. His mom on the other hand is amazing so at least I have one I for sure get a long with.

Be polite but firm with boundaries. Remember that you're marrying into their family and that comes with clashing personalities and traditions you may not be comfortable with or aware of. My MIL made some truly atrocious comments to me out of the blue and now our relationship is nonexistent. I'm cordial to her because she's his mom and my MIL, but she is no longer welcome in our house unless he and I come to agreements about things before she visits.