so since wedding planning it has made these relationships difficult to my future mil asking if her neighbors (who I have never have met) can come to the wedding, his sister trying to get more attention wanting to sing at our wedding and dance their traditional dance (which my man said no thankfully)....
Recently I threw a family dinner with my mans family because I wanted to try and make an effort and try to mend the bridges .. the dinner was meant to start 5.30 I had purchased food and cooked everything and they didn’t get to our house until 7.15 .
they didn’t message or call me to let me know their excuses where his mum “had a physio appointment” “and his sister needed to get the cakes that his mum made from the home” ( even though his sister usually gets home at 6 and we live 10 mins away from them and I already told the mil I had brought a cake) ...
I’m completely upset and hurt by their actions and lack of empathy...
Any advice? I know I can’t change them they will never appreciate or love me which hurts but I’m not sure how to approach it going forward ...
Any advice or personal experiences??