Future mil vent - thoughts?

At the end of the day, you & your fiancé can make the final decision since its your kids. Yes she might not like it, but oh well. Do they ever go anywhere? Like any stores or anything? If so that will probably be her next argument, that they can catch covid at a gas station or store just as they can in a restaurant or at a beach. Just curious, would you allow them to go if they took the proper precautions? (Mask, sanitizer, social distancing etc)

Well we were doing mostly out door things with them. ( pool, some outside restaurants, mini golf) but when she gets them she takes them to mall, restaurants even with him asking to please not to so he is hesitant for them to take them since he can't believe they're going to respect his wishes. its frustrating. I just felt the comment " well we will stay home if they get sick " was super rude and shows how little she cares. She also has shown zero interest in this since day one..

At the end of the day they're your kids, tell her no. Yeah, it's going to upset her, but if you truly don't want them going out to these places and you're aware she's not listening to you then you have to actually enforce your boundaries with her. She takes them there because she knows you won't do anything about it, so actually cut her off.

Yes yesterday he told her, we are just keeping kids in so everyone is good and healthy for wedding since we would have to cancel if they get sick. her first thing was that she would stay home with them. He told her we literally would have eloped but we want kids part of it. she was very upset with him. Idk I am sure I will be the bad guy.

I agree with the PPs....your kids, your rules! If his mom doesn't want to respect your wishes, she doesn't get to hang out with the kids. I think you'd be totally, absolutely justified to set and enforce this boundary. I think it will be a very productive exercise in the long term (although uncomfortable at the time!)

If she's crazy now she's always gonna be crazy lol. It's not fun to be the one who gets blamed, but at least you and your FH know that it's just her being ridiculous. My MIL hates me for her own reasons that would've affected anyone who ended up with her son, so I just let her be nuts and blame me and I ignore it. All it's done is worsened her relationship with my fiancé by her own doing. The sooner both of you shut her down and don't let her get away with stuff the sooner she'll have to get her act together if she actually wants to see your kids and be a part of their lives. It sounds like you're both on the same page, which is great. Keep being a strong, united front against her. It's uncomfortable now but it'll make your lives easier in the long run.

Yes that's crazy, she has to realize that she's just the grandparent in the situation not the parent so she needs to respect you and your fiancés wishes.

I think you both need to put your foot down and say 1. they are your kids and you make the decisions for them and 2. that it is also your wedding and you want the kids there so they need to respect your boundaries. That's what it sounds like to me, that your MIL does not respect your boundaries, at all.

She doesn't at all. She was coming and taking laundry out of the house and I freaked.

Yea. I did. and she is not the same since.. oh well