Some back story: I'm getting married to my fiancé, with whom I've been with for 7 years now, in less than 45 days. His sister and I used to get along just fine, but about 5 months ago, started this massive fight out of nowhere with my fiance and I, to which she then apologized...only to start something once more, this time that she doesn't want me as family (keep in mind, she's 2 years older than me and married, and also included me in her bridal party). She wanted to be in the wedding but only because her brother is getting married, not because she actually likes me (she made that explicit). So then I said to her that she can stand on his side, but I don't feel comfortable around her. That caused another uproar, to which my fiance told her not to come to the wedding...then 2 weeks later, she sends her RSVP in that she's coming with her husband.
She then sent a text apology (which was very...short and to the point and without meaning) once more to me alone after being told that she had to apologize by my future mother in law. I told her look this is where we stand, I'm not really up for being fooled again. I really wanted to work this out and I'm not sure where all of these feelings are coming towards me because it's like you were a completely different person for the past 6 years (when I say this is a stark difference, I mean both my fiance and I feel like we don't know this person that's she's been at all, it's scary). So I said I still don't feel comfortable having you stand up there with me. If you want to actually have a conversation about this we can, but if not, then I'm not going to discuss this over text.
She then said that she made an apology and that she doesn't owe me anything more, and that I'm to tell her if she can come to the wedding or not. I was really hurt by all of this and said at this point, I don't really care whether you come or not because I'm just going to make time for the people that actually care for me at the wedding.
I'm really just in shock and not sure what to do. I know that his mom does not like me right now because I won't include my fiancé's sister but if I were to say all of the names she's called me to my face and behind my back, I feel many people wouldn't feel comfortable being around her either. I'm so lost as to why this is all happening too, and I'm not sure what the right move is. To try to patch things up (because this is going to be a life long relationship, we'll see each other at holidays...unless at this point I don't even feel comfortable going to their family holidays) or just continue to let it go and pray she doesn't do anything at the wedding (which is unclear to me if she is coming).
Do I try again to have an honest conversation? Or just let this go and accept that most of his family is really upset at both my fiance and I because we won't be pushed over and bullied...