Future sister in law invited to bachelorette?

I think it’s rude to exclude members of the wedding party from pre-wedding events. She doesn’t need to go but she should be invited.

My brother and his wife have been married for 23 years. While they were planning their wedding, my SIL made it very clear to me that her wedding festivities were for her friends and I wasn’t included. We have zero relationship to this day. Maybe it would be worth offering an olive branch to your hisband’s sister.

I would say that's a no-no. It would look like you're singling her out if she was the only one not invited, and I don't think you want any kind of riffs or feuds to start because of it. She should be invited, giver her a chance.

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This ^.

Invite her. She can decide if she wants to come. It won't ruin your time by having her there and it might help you build a relationship with this woman who will be a part of your life for a long time coming. People remember kindness. They also remember being excluded. When your wedding is over, how do you want her to remember you.

She's part of your wedding party, that's really rude to not invite her. If she is not close, she shouldn't have been in the wedding.

I agree with everyone else. Definite no-no. When my brother got married my SIL's brother was a groomsmen, and they're not best friends or anything, she made him do it, and I lit a candle during the ceremony with the great aunt. None of us have forgotten that. I was so offended by it. If her brother wasn't in the ceremony I would've understood, but it really hurt my feelings.

Do not do anything that will cause a rift in the family. Normally, your wedding party should all be invited to events like that. If she wasn't in the wedding that's different. Definitely invite her!

My FH sister is in our wedding so she will be invited to all prewedding events. You want to invite her to not cause any issues.

My fiance's 4 sisters are all bridesmaids, so they are all naturally invited to my shower and bachelorette party! I would include her, it seems like a thoughtful way to get closer to her too.

If you want to have a relationship with her in the future, you need to invite her.

I would say since she is in the bridal party, yes, it wouldn't be fair to exclude her. I was not planning on inviting my FSIL to my bach party because she will be VERY pregnant (2 week from due date) and she isn't in the bridal party. I don't think it would be fun for her to go on a weekend trip while that pregnant. But I don't know if I should just extend the invite anyway.

I think it's okay if she sits it out. I'm inviting FH's brother's girlfriend, but I didn't feel any pressure to do so. The bachelor/bachelorette is in Vegas 2 days before the wedding (also in Vegas), so they'll both be in town, but FH's bother's girlfriend would be by herself all day in Vegas, which sounds boring to me! So I'm inviting her so the party. I've met her before and we get along, she just won't be able to do the one thing that's 21+ because she's 18.

I don't happen to agree that she needs to be invited, but since I'm the minority here, I'd probably listen to them over me lol

You can't pick and choose where to include her. You're having her in your wedding party so she should be invited to the bachelorette. I personally don't think one is under the obligation to have future sister in laws as bridesmaids or be included in all the festivities like bachelorette before the wedding, but if you're going so far as to have her in the wedding party you have to invite her to the bachelorette.

She should be invited if she’s part of your bridal party. She may feel hurt if you exclude her, even though you are not close. I would still expect an invitation in this situation if I was your FSIL and a bridesmaid but would most likely decline it if the only person I really knew was the bride and we weren’t super close. It doesn’t hurt to extend an invitation and this way you won’t hurt her feelings at all. If I did this to my FSIL my FMIL would be so mad and disown me before I even say “I do” 😑

I wouldn't sit her out. My FSIL and BM will be 15 at the time of our wedding and I'll be doing a super lowkey cruise as my bachelorette party to be able to include her.